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How much having a difficult child influences on how you parent your PCs? (Joy being typical teen brat)
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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 537846" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>You are a really caring mom....I love that you can check youself. I can totally see where all that emotion came from, and maybe even add that there could be a pretty deep prayer that your easy child not be like difficult child (in the neg. ways) so desperately that anything that looks similar may cause an over-reaction. My God daughter/niece was pouring her heart out about how when she screws up she has such terrible punishments (not really but....geesh) and her easy child/gfgish bro who is really screwing up right now is getting no serious consequences (NOT TRUE)....but she sees it that way and hates how his behaviors make the gossip rounds etc. She said that she always gets amazing grades and the only time she really got attention was when she struggled in a class but she pulled the grade up (she doesn't have any pressure to be the stellar student she is, she just does well). I know my sister brags on her all the time, but it is my nieces perspective and I think she is asking for more attention in some ways. </p><p></p><p>My sister then ends up taking time to do what is suggested here. Sits and goes through things. Explains how proud she is, and tries to connect more. I think for you, talking about why you felt so disappointed (regardless of difficult child) is appropriate. But maybe explaining that your strong reaction is maybe in part due to your worry and issues with difficult child. Maybe letting him know you appreciate his point and will consider it. But, that doesn't mean he can just blow off responsibility. (not saying he is of course)...</p><p></p><p>I loved my job but I sure had many days when I blew off steam to friends.</p><p></p><p>Dont be too hard on yourself. His reaction was probably a combo of typical teen behavior and sib. of difficult child issues....There is never an easy answer, right?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 537846, member: 12886"] You are a really caring mom....I love that you can check youself. I can totally see where all that emotion came from, and maybe even add that there could be a pretty deep prayer that your easy child not be like difficult child (in the neg. ways) so desperately that anything that looks similar may cause an over-reaction. My God daughter/niece was pouring her heart out about how when she screws up she has such terrible punishments (not really but....geesh) and her easy child/gfgish bro who is really screwing up right now is getting no serious consequences (NOT TRUE)....but she sees it that way and hates how his behaviors make the gossip rounds etc. She said that she always gets amazing grades and the only time she really got attention was when she struggled in a class but she pulled the grade up (she doesn't have any pressure to be the stellar student she is, she just does well). I know my sister brags on her all the time, but it is my nieces perspective and I think she is asking for more attention in some ways. My sister then ends up taking time to do what is suggested here. Sits and goes through things. Explains how proud she is, and tries to connect more. I think for you, talking about why you felt so disappointed (regardless of difficult child) is appropriate. But maybe explaining that your strong reaction is maybe in part due to your worry and issues with difficult child. Maybe letting him know you appreciate his point and will consider it. But, that doesn't mean he can just blow off responsibility. (not saying he is of course)... I loved my job but I sure had many days when I blew off steam to friends. Dont be too hard on yourself. His reaction was probably a combo of typical teen behavior and sib. of difficult child issues....There is never an easy answer, right? [/QUOTE]
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