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How Often Do You Bicker with-Your Spouse Abt difficult child?
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<blockquote data-quote="CrazyinVA" data-source="post: 279616" data-attributes="member: 1157"><p>Having raised my difficult children mostlly by myself (they were 3 and 7 when their dad and I split), I hesitated to chime in on this thread, but I'll throw in my 2 cents, from a different perspective.</p><p></p><p>I found it difficult, if not impossible, to maintain a relationship with a man while raising my girls. I had one failed 2nd marriage (11 months.. poor choice on my part) and several failed relationships. What I finally figured out was that I was a better mom by myself, than I could ever be with someone else, trying to get them to understand my girls, accept my girls, deal with my girls. I simply did not have the time or energy to devote to both dealing with my girls' issues, and nurturing a relationship with a man. It wasn't fair to my girls, or to him (whoever "him" was). Or to myself, really.. it stretched me too thin.</p><p></p><p>That's not to say I didn't find time for me, and date occasionally. I just finally figured out that marriage/living together was not in the cards for me while they were still at home, I wasn't willing to walk on those eggshells. Once I accepted that, I was ok with it. </p><p></p><p>I know my course is not for everyone.. some of you single moms out there have found wonderful men and it's worked out great for you. Big kudos, and hugs, to all of you. I just wanted to say that if it doesn't work out that way, it's ok, too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CrazyinVA, post: 279616, member: 1157"] Having raised my difficult children mostlly by myself (they were 3 and 7 when their dad and I split), I hesitated to chime in on this thread, but I'll throw in my 2 cents, from a different perspective. I found it difficult, if not impossible, to maintain a relationship with a man while raising my girls. I had one failed 2nd marriage (11 months.. poor choice on my part) and several failed relationships. What I finally figured out was that I was a better mom by myself, than I could ever be with someone else, trying to get them to understand my girls, accept my girls, deal with my girls. I simply did not have the time or energy to devote to both dealing with my girls' issues, and nurturing a relationship with a man. It wasn't fair to my girls, or to him (whoever "him" was). Or to myself, really.. it stretched me too thin. That's not to say I didn't find time for me, and date occasionally. I just finally figured out that marriage/living together was not in the cards for me while they were still at home, I wasn't willing to walk on those eggshells. Once I accepted that, I was ok with it. I know my course is not for everyone.. some of you single moms out there have found wonderful men and it's worked out great for you. Big kudos, and hugs, to all of you. I just wanted to say that if it doesn't work out that way, it's ok, too. [/QUOTE]
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