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How should I react to this comment by husband on our anniversary?
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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 460594" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>I think I would ask husband why. Why did he say that? Was it intended as a light-hearted joke? Was it meant to be a cutting remark? Or something else entirely? Rather than guessing, I'd just ask. </p><p></p><p>Once you have the facts, then you'll have a better idea of how you want and need to react to the situation. </p><p></p><p>Did he mean to say something hurtful? If so, why? Why does your husband feel the need to hurt you on a day that should be a celebration of your love and your relationship?</p><p>If he meant it as a light-hearted joke, why did he choose that topic which would be so easy to misinterpret? </p><p></p><p>Once you get at the heart of what he meant, then you can tell him how you interpreted it and how it made you feel. If he meant to be nice, then it's an opportunity to gain a richer understanding of each other's communication styles and reactions. Something to bring you closer together. If he meant to be mean spirited, that's another story...that's something that needs to be addressed another way.</p><p></p><p>In any case, I don't think it's a bad thing to be at a loss for words when someone says something you're not able to interpret. Gives you time to calm down, think, and determine how you want to handle the next conversation.</p><p></p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 460594, member: 3907"] I think I would ask husband why. Why did he say that? Was it intended as a light-hearted joke? Was it meant to be a cutting remark? Or something else entirely? Rather than guessing, I'd just ask. Once you have the facts, then you'll have a better idea of how you want and need to react to the situation. Did he mean to say something hurtful? If so, why? Why does your husband feel the need to hurt you on a day that should be a celebration of your love and your relationship? If he meant it as a light-hearted joke, why did he choose that topic which would be so easy to misinterpret? Once you get at the heart of what he meant, then you can tell him how you interpreted it and how it made you feel. If he meant to be nice, then it's an opportunity to gain a richer understanding of each other's communication styles and reactions. Something to bring you closer together. If he meant to be mean spirited, that's another story...that's something that needs to be addressed another way. In any case, I don't think it's a bad thing to be at a loss for words when someone says something you're not able to interpret. Gives you time to calm down, think, and determine how you want to handle the next conversation. Trinity [/QUOTE]
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