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<blockquote data-quote="nellytelly" data-source="post: 358505"><p>The kicking out part is what I need to know more about. She has nowhere to go, no friends or anything. She has refused to budge when I told her to leave before when she was yelling at me and being a monster. We don't even have any boxes to pack her stuff in. She's got a room full of clothes and stuff laying everywhere in there. Half my basement is full of the stuff she's been hoarding. </p><p></p><p>She already does her own laundry and feeds herself most of the time (thanks to the school lunch). Her Dad gave her a cell phone but told her she's not welcome there or at his Mother's. I can see her simply refusing to leave my home. What can I do? Call police and tell them she is 18 and so I want her out of my home and to come and take her away? Will they do it? How do you get someone out who doesn't want to go and has no where to go? Will they make me evict her? </p><p></p><p>I don't want to be responsible for her in any way anymore. All this talk about ME signing her up for classes and ME driving her here or there - I don't want anything to do with it. I am tired of being her taxi and I want to get on with my life. I gave up 18 years+, a good job, a social life and everything to get this kid to age 18 in one piece and not in jail or pregnant. I feel it's up to her now to carry on with her life. I know nothing about SSI and the only person I know who collects that is her father. He refuses to help her in any way and has told her she is not welcome there.</p><p></p><p>Who is going to help her then if not me? Who is going to fill out paperwork and drive her around? Not me! Why does anyone expect me to do any of that for her when she won't even pick up her dirty clothing from my bathroom floor? I have to pay someone to cut my grass or rake leaves. The most she does is take the trash out to the curb after I have to remind her constantly and wait until she feels like doing it. She isn't even capable enough to wash dishes correctly or use the stove!! She wants nothing to do with housework, yardwork and things like that. </p><p></p><p>I plan on selling my home and moving into some retirement community. I am physically disabled. I can't take care of the upkeep on a house and yard like this and she can't either. I am tired of being treated like her maid and taxi driver. I had to go pick her up from school just today. they called to tell me she threw up, is sick and needs to be taken home. You don't know how much I wanted to refuse. It was like waking me in the middle of the night since I have bad insomnia and just fell asleep a few hours before they called me. </p><p></p><p>No one takes care of me and I need to be able to take care of myself and my health. I can't do that as long as she is here. She has been a burden all these years and it's taken a toll on my mental and physical health. I want to be able to take care of myself and not have to drop everything or be inconvenienced or have to live around what she needs and wants. I want my life back, or what's left of it, anyway. </p><p></p><p>I want to know who's going to do all this stuff that she seems unable to do? She even refuses to get a state ID. She can't even go to the bank and cash a check unless she carries around her social security card and birth certificate. She's already tried to lie to the police once before about her age and name. She comes up with all kinds of excuses of why she doesn't want to learn to drive, get her own place, work, go to school, you name it. She's a dead beat just like her father, always looking for someone else to pay her way through life. Lazy. She brags about it like she's proud of it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nellytelly, post: 358505"] The kicking out part is what I need to know more about. She has nowhere to go, no friends or anything. She has refused to budge when I told her to leave before when she was yelling at me and being a monster. We don't even have any boxes to pack her stuff in. She's got a room full of clothes and stuff laying everywhere in there. Half my basement is full of the stuff she's been hoarding. She already does her own laundry and feeds herself most of the time (thanks to the school lunch). Her Dad gave her a cell phone but told her she's not welcome there or at his Mother's. I can see her simply refusing to leave my home. What can I do? Call police and tell them she is 18 and so I want her out of my home and to come and take her away? Will they do it? How do you get someone out who doesn't want to go and has no where to go? Will they make me evict her? I don't want to be responsible for her in any way anymore. All this talk about ME signing her up for classes and ME driving her here or there - I don't want anything to do with it. I am tired of being her taxi and I want to get on with my life. I gave up 18 years+, a good job, a social life and everything to get this kid to age 18 in one piece and not in jail or pregnant. I feel it's up to her now to carry on with her life. I know nothing about SSI and the only person I know who collects that is her father. He refuses to help her in any way and has told her she is not welcome there. Who is going to help her then if not me? Who is going to fill out paperwork and drive her around? Not me! Why does anyone expect me to do any of that for her when she won't even pick up her dirty clothing from my bathroom floor? I have to pay someone to cut my grass or rake leaves. The most she does is take the trash out to the curb after I have to remind her constantly and wait until she feels like doing it. She isn't even capable enough to wash dishes correctly or use the stove!! She wants nothing to do with housework, yardwork and things like that. I plan on selling my home and moving into some retirement community. I am physically disabled. I can't take care of the upkeep on a house and yard like this and she can't either. I am tired of being treated like her maid and taxi driver. I had to go pick her up from school just today. they called to tell me she threw up, is sick and needs to be taken home. You don't know how much I wanted to refuse. It was like waking me in the middle of the night since I have bad insomnia and just fell asleep a few hours before they called me. No one takes care of me and I need to be able to take care of myself and my health. I can't do that as long as she is here. She has been a burden all these years and it's taken a toll on my mental and physical health. I want to be able to take care of myself and not have to drop everything or be inconvenienced or have to live around what she needs and wants. I want my life back, or what's left of it, anyway. I want to know who's going to do all this stuff that she seems unable to do? She even refuses to get a state ID. She can't even go to the bank and cash a check unless she carries around her social security card and birth certificate. She's already tried to lie to the police once before about her age and name. She comes up with all kinds of excuses of why she doesn't want to learn to drive, get her own place, work, go to school, you name it. She's a dead beat just like her father, always looking for someone else to pay her way through life. Lazy. She brags about it like she's proud of it. [/QUOTE]
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