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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 358663" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>Go to the store and get some boxes. Write her a letter giving her 30 days notice to vacate. Give it to her in front of a witness, and keep a copy signed by the witness that it was served to your daughter. Then when the 30 days are up, the next time she goes to the store or a movie or out for a few hours change the locks. Pack the boxes at your convenience and put them out on the porch or at a mutually agreed upon place when you're done.</p><p></p><p>It's not <em>your</em> fault that she burned all of her bridges and no one wants her. <em>Someone</em> will put her up for a night or two. They're not doing it <em>now</em> because she has somewhere to sleep - your house.</p><p></p><p>There may be someone who will fill out her paperwork and help her figure out how to get to and from the places she needs to go. But no one is ever going to step in as long as you are doing it. And she absolutely will never figure it out for herself so long as you are doing it. If she's capable of doing laundry and feeding herself, she's capable of filling out a form.</p><p></p><p>My neighbor sold her house out from under her no good son who wouldn't leave the garage. She moved into a retirement community and told him "Sorry, you have to be 55 years old to live there. You'll have to find someplace to live." Sure enough the day the title papers were signed, the police came and assisted the new owners in moving him out. No one knows where he went, and no one cares. He's not living down the block getting drunk and taking cars apart in the driveway anymore.</p><p></p><p>Rest assured that unless your daughter is mentally retarded she is able to do these things for herself. She's a spoiled little girl who is happy to let you do everything for her. Don't you dare feel one bit guilty that you have decided to get on with your life. If it makes you feel any better, you can call the school guidance counselor and tell them what your plans are and suggest that they set her up with a program to teach her life-skills. She's got <em>one</em> tried and true skill that has worked for her for years - leaching off of people who fall for her sob story that she can't do for herself. M got by on that one for over 5 years after he left our house but let me tell you, he never once slept on the street or went hungry. He's a pro at sucking the life out of people. He's getting a little better. But it's his row to plow, not mine.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 358663, member: 99"] Go to the store and get some boxes. Write her a letter giving her 30 days notice to vacate. Give it to her in front of a witness, and keep a copy signed by the witness that it was served to your daughter. Then when the 30 days are up, the next time she goes to the store or a movie or out for a few hours change the locks. Pack the boxes at your convenience and put them out on the porch or at a mutually agreed upon place when you're done. It's not [I]your[/I] fault that she burned all of her bridges and no one wants her. [I]Someone[/I] will put her up for a night or two. They're not doing it [I]now[/I] because she has somewhere to sleep - your house. There may be someone who will fill out her paperwork and help her figure out how to get to and from the places she needs to go. But no one is ever going to step in as long as you are doing it. And she absolutely will never figure it out for herself so long as you are doing it. If she's capable of doing laundry and feeding herself, she's capable of filling out a form. My neighbor sold her house out from under her no good son who wouldn't leave the garage. She moved into a retirement community and told him "Sorry, you have to be 55 years old to live there. You'll have to find someplace to live." Sure enough the day the title papers were signed, the police came and assisted the new owners in moving him out. No one knows where he went, and no one cares. He's not living down the block getting drunk and taking cars apart in the driveway anymore. Rest assured that unless your daughter is mentally retarded she is able to do these things for herself. She's a spoiled little girl who is happy to let you do everything for her. Don't you dare feel one bit guilty that you have decided to get on with your life. If it makes you feel any better, you can call the school guidance counselor and tell them what your plans are and suggest that they set her up with a program to teach her life-skills. She's got [I]one[/I] tried and true skill that has worked for her for years - leaching off of people who fall for her sob story that she can't do for herself. M got by on that one for over 5 years after he left our house but let me tell you, he never once slept on the street or went hungry. He's a pro at sucking the life out of people. He's getting a little better. But it's his row to plow, not mine. [/QUOTE]
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