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<blockquote data-quote="Nandina" data-source="post: 761860" data-attributes="member: 23742"><p>Hi Anadyr, we are in exactly the same boat, except a different drug, and my 21 year old son is in jail in another state from where we live and charged with two felonies that he committed under the influence. I did pay for a lawyer, although I will not bail my son out of jail. His sentencing court date is in a couple of weeks and the lawyer is trying to get him probated to treatment.</p><p></p><p>My son is clear-headed for the first time in more than three years, since he left home at 18 and began a downward spiral of drug abuse and eventually trouble with the law. That is what 4 drug-free months in jail have done for him. He hates being in jail, but is making sense about his life and what he wants for his future for the first time in a long time. He knows he never wants to end up back in jail again and seems ready to make the changes he needs to. We’ll see. But I am willing to trust him this time because he is sober going into it.</p><p></p><p>He had never been in jail before and had failed at treatment two other times. Those times he had gone into treatment directly from the streets, and had used drugs in the days preceding. I think that made it too easy for him to give up and leave (or get kicked out of) treatment in a matter of weeks, as the pull of drugs was still powerful.</p><p></p><p>I’m not sure if this is your son’s first experience with jail, but as much as it is an awful place, spending some time there is often what it takes to get someone to realize what a mess they have made of their life. I didn’t think my son had a “rock bottom,” but I think jail is finally it. And he is well aware that if he fails or gets kicked out of treatment, it’s considered a violation of probation and he will go right back to jail to serve out his sentence and then some.</p><p></p><p>I wish you the very best with all the hard decisions you’re having to make, comfort for the pain and sadness you’re experiencing, and prayers that from this unpleasant experience, your son will be able to reevaluate his life and make the changes he needs to.</p><p></p><p>Many hugs. Please keep posting.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nandina, post: 761860, member: 23742"] Hi Anadyr, we are in exactly the same boat, except a different drug, and my 21 year old son is in jail in another state from where we live and charged with two felonies that he committed under the influence. I did pay for a lawyer, although I will not bail my son out of jail. His sentencing court date is in a couple of weeks and the lawyer is trying to get him probated to treatment. My son is clear-headed for the first time in more than three years, since he left home at 18 and began a downward spiral of drug abuse and eventually trouble with the law. That is what 4 drug-free months in jail have done for him. He hates being in jail, but is making sense about his life and what he wants for his future for the first time in a long time. He knows he never wants to end up back in jail again and seems ready to make the changes he needs to. We’ll see. But I am willing to trust him this time because he is sober going into it. He had never been in jail before and had failed at treatment two other times. Those times he had gone into treatment directly from the streets, and had used drugs in the days preceding. I think that made it too easy for him to give up and leave (or get kicked out of) treatment in a matter of weeks, as the pull of drugs was still powerful. I’m not sure if this is your son’s first experience with jail, but as much as it is an awful place, spending some time there is often what it takes to get someone to realize what a mess they have made of their life. I didn’t think my son had a “rock bottom,” but I think jail is finally it. And he is well aware that if he fails or gets kicked out of treatment, it’s considered a violation of probation and he will go right back to jail to serve out his sentence and then some. I wish you the very best with all the hard decisions you’re having to make, comfort for the pain and sadness you’re experiencing, and prayers that from this unpleasant experience, your son will be able to reevaluate his life and make the changes he needs to. Many hugs. Please keep posting. [/QUOTE]
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