SWOT, thank you.
My father died years before I adopted my son.
Yes, my son is very angry. While I am the target, I do not think I am in the main who he is angry at.
I think I stand in for his birth parents by whom he was abandoned. And through the incurable illness he acquired at birth, keep on hurting and stigmatizing him from the grave.
Yes, I am sure he is mad at me because I am stepping back, no longer the endless fount of forgiveness, love and benevolent care, as before, hanging on his every word and deed.
And of course, this is significant. After all, to him, that was my purpose in life, was it not?
He does not like that I have been empowered and that I am no longer acquiescing fully to his wants and needs or hanging on his every word. That, I understand.
At the same time, I cannot be his target.
I may have gone too far, but I am not calling back to walk this back. Let him sit with this and see what he makes of it.
Somebody has to protect me from this? Who will it be if not me?
The question is how.
If anybody has thoughts on how to proceed from here, I am all ears. Thank you.
