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How to explain to child Mom wants nothing to do with him
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<blockquote data-quote="Steely" data-source="post: 120286" data-attributes="member: 3301"><p>Just also wanted you to know that Justin is not alone in this journey. It breaks a kid's heart to have one of their parent's reject them. My son has struggled with this for 16 years. He held out hope for his dad, he hated his dad, he "adopted" other dads........and on and on.</p><p></p><p>Last year, his dad decided he wanted to be "dad" again - which is more like an 18 year old in a 42 yo body. None the less........his dad is present and accounted for. There is some healing that has taken place, but just as much confusion, resentment, and an over excessive amount of dad pleasing going on. </p><p></p><p>I was always honest with my son. I held him when he cried for his dad. I encouraged him to write him letters, even when he did not know where to send them. But most of all I told him over and over again that his dad loved him. Because he did/does - despite his presence, or lack thereof in his son's life. </p><p></p><p>in my opinion, the most important thing, is that Justin understands his mom is mentally ill, and impaired.......but absolutely still loves him. IF she could be the mom Justin needed/wanted she would - but she can't right now - maybe some day. This is the message that needs to be communicated to him.......</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Steely, post: 120286, member: 3301"] Just also wanted you to know that Justin is not alone in this journey. It breaks a kid's heart to have one of their parent's reject them. My son has struggled with this for 16 years. He held out hope for his dad, he hated his dad, he "adopted" other dads........and on and on. Last year, his dad decided he wanted to be "dad" again - which is more like an 18 year old in a 42 yo body. None the less........his dad is present and accounted for. There is some healing that has taken place, but just as much confusion, resentment, and an over excessive amount of dad pleasing going on. I was always honest with my son. I held him when he cried for his dad. I encouraged him to write him letters, even when he did not know where to send them. But most of all I told him over and over again that his dad loved him. Because he did/does - despite his presence, or lack thereof in his son's life. in my opinion, the most important thing, is that Justin understands his mom is mentally ill, and impaired.......but absolutely still loves him. IF she could be the mom Justin needed/wanted she would - but she can't right now - maybe some day. This is the message that needs to be communicated to him....... [/QUOTE]
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