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How to get the doctors to listen? New here, am wondering.
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<blockquote data-quote="HaoZi" data-source="post: 401365"><p>There are a number of us here that know or suspect we are also Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) as well. I'm one of them. And yes, there is power in the eyes, I believe this. Window to the soul? Couldn't tell you. But there is a lot you can figure out by watching the eyes, little signs, from microexpressions to pupil dilation and contraction. I tend to either be fleeting with my contact or far too direct with it. Sometimes I'm too direct on purpose just to make the other person feel as uncomfortable as I am. I found that learning about what I could discern from someone's eyes helped me make eye contact with strangers more, because in a sense it wasn't as personal, more like a science experiment.</p><p></p><p>I remember when I went to NYC in my teen years that few people made much direct eye contact. It was like observing a mix of domestic and feral dogs that weren't too sure of each other. My relatives from there told me that NYers tend to feel that direct eye contact means that A) you're a tourist (and therefore a target), B) you're on drugs, C) you're insane, or D) some combination of the above. Being as my Mom had never lost her accent, I picked up on the accent totally after 3 days, so I didn't sound like a tourist and had fun the rest of my trip making everyone else on the public transit system uncomfortable. I only recall one person that kept eye contact with me, an older guy in a nice suit, and thinking he must be quite good at his job.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HaoZi, post: 401365"] There are a number of us here that know or suspect we are also Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) as well. I'm one of them. And yes, there is power in the eyes, I believe this. Window to the soul? Couldn't tell you. But there is a lot you can figure out by watching the eyes, little signs, from microexpressions to pupil dilation and contraction. I tend to either be fleeting with my contact or far too direct with it. Sometimes I'm too direct on purpose just to make the other person feel as uncomfortable as I am. I found that learning about what I could discern from someone's eyes helped me make eye contact with strangers more, because in a sense it wasn't as personal, more like a science experiment. I remember when I went to NYC in my teen years that few people made much direct eye contact. It was like observing a mix of domestic and feral dogs that weren't too sure of each other. My relatives from there told me that NYers tend to feel that direct eye contact means that A) you're a tourist (and therefore a target), B) you're on drugs, C) you're insane, or D) some combination of the above. Being as my Mom had never lost her accent, I picked up on the accent totally after 3 days, so I didn't sound like a tourist and had fun the rest of my trip making everyone else on the public transit system uncomfortable. I only recall one person that kept eye contact with me, an older guy in a nice suit, and thinking he must be quite good at his job. [/QUOTE]
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