Another thought...
With regard to your daughter's shoes, I used to wear layers of socks. Two or three pairs at a time. It might be worth trying that with your daughter, as she'll be able to get the tight feeling without hurting her feet.
One thing to keep in mind. If it is a Sensory Integration Disorder that your daughter is dealing with, battling over wearing her clothes appropriately won't work. The sensory issues are an imperative that must be met one way or another. It's possible to find more constructive ways of dealing with them, but I suspect that trying to get her to stop entirely is a losing battle.
Sorry that you're struggling, but glad you found us.
Trinity