I wish I had an easy answer for you, but I don't. Each day and each episode is different and so how I approach it with difficult child is different. When she wants to be alone, I let her and when she's ready to come to me she will. I try to offer resources and help with coping skills, but when she's in that state I'm not sure how much she absorbs. It is heartbreaking. I'd rather deal with the raging, honestly, if I had to choose. OK. If I had to choose, I'd pick neither, but since that's not an option I pick raging.
When easy child was depressed he was hostile and angry with heavy suicidal ideation, but he never cried. Not once.
