Hi skittles,
This is hard because, as you said, you would do it for a friend; however, unlike doing a one-time favor for a friend, if you do this once it will somehow become your responsibility, your job. And then what—you have opened the door to being there for this baby as well as your grands.
I think she needs to learn how to take care of her own needs, which means learning to take the bus and finding out if she is eligible for free rides for medical appts. from social services. It’s really not that difficult. Many people with disabilities take the bus on their own and get a sense of accomplishment and self-esteem from doing things like this for themselves.
Did she just ask you to do this with little notice?
it’s a really hard situation, but I lean toward not opening this Pandora’s box, and giving her the opportunity to figure things out for herself. She really needs to know if she can take care of this baby on her own or if she needs to put it up for adoption.
