"It's New Year's Eve, mom, I just want to hang with my friends"(said upon his release from three weeks in jail, said release enabled by me, based on promises to go STRAIGHT to men's shelter to talk to case worker and get on housing list....things he still hasn't done.
Sounds similar, no?
Do yourself a favor and stop researching jobs. It helped me a lot when I stopped investing time in "Helping" him better himself by doing stuff like that, to his smiling thank yous, only to have....nothing happen. Over and over. Just stop it.
Child is right. It is exhausting to try to do for him, manage him, control him. It is maddening when he won't walk through the doors you open for him. Try not to put yourself in the position of being exhausted and maddened. It is all you can do right now.
Hugs and sympathy,
Echo