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How to Have a Relationship with Son in Residential Treatment Center (RTC)
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<blockquote data-quote="Lucedaleblessed" data-source="post: 642367" data-attributes="member: 6747"><p>You cannot get him clean. The court system can't either. The only person who can is himself.</p><p></p><p>So it really doesn't matter where he is. There are drugs in jail. There are drugs just outside the NA meeting places in some rehabs also.</p><p></p><p>The Residential Treatment Center (RTC) where he is now sounds like a prison so he properly feel that it doesn't matter if he is in a rehab functioning as a prison or in a real prison.</p><p></p><p>In this situation you have to watch out for your self. They wan't you to visit so they can talk you into some kind of therapy controlled by them because they might have some parenting classes to sell. If the visits are not doing you good, then don't do them. If the court system gives up and gives him time served at some point then you have sit down with your son and list the demands for him to come home or risk the alternative: To end up in foster care.</p><p></p><p>It sounds harsh but as long as someone believes that they can force an addict to stop it will be a failure. He has to want it and then there will still be room for relapse.</p><p></p><p>We don't have contact to our daughter. It was not a drug issue but we stood firm and kept her well until her 18 years birthday. She left on her own accord. We miss her every day and we will properly second guess our previous decision for the rest of our lives but we did our best to keep us sane and fit while giving her the best tool we was able to to move on in life. On the future will tell if we did right.</p><p></p><p>You have to be the best mother you can. To achieve that you have to protect your health in order to be a good mother for him. Sometime it demands a no.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lucedaleblessed, post: 642367, member: 6747"] You cannot get him clean. The court system can't either. The only person who can is himself. So it really doesn't matter where he is. There are drugs in jail. There are drugs just outside the NA meeting places in some rehabs also. The Residential Treatment Center (RTC) where he is now sounds like a prison so he properly feel that it doesn't matter if he is in a rehab functioning as a prison or in a real prison. In this situation you have to watch out for your self. They wan't you to visit so they can talk you into some kind of therapy controlled by them because they might have some parenting classes to sell. If the visits are not doing you good, then don't do them. If the court system gives up and gives him time served at some point then you have sit down with your son and list the demands for him to come home or risk the alternative: To end up in foster care. It sounds harsh but as long as someone believes that they can force an addict to stop it will be a failure. He has to want it and then there will still be room for relapse. We don't have contact to our daughter. It was not a drug issue but we stood firm and kept her well until her 18 years birthday. She left on her own accord. We miss her every day and we will properly second guess our previous decision for the rest of our lives but we did our best to keep us sane and fit while giving her the best tool we was able to to move on in life. On the future will tell if we did right. You have to be the best mother you can. To achieve that you have to protect your health in order to be a good mother for him. Sometime it demands a no. [/QUOTE]
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