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A couple of good books, How to Talk so Your Child Will Listen and Raising a Spirited child. They don't address the escalations we face but they are really solid communication tools. Actually I used the tactics on my ex-husband more than the kids! lol I also attended a parents training program for kids with Conduct Disorders, I was alone but there were many couples there and I could see that it was really good for thier relationships. To hear their struggles being voiced by others seemed really relieving, especially by the fathers. I also saw many of the couples express appreciation for each other that seemed to surprise them. For me as a single parent it was just good to talk about stuff without fear that they would judge my kid. I got some good tools from the sessions.