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<blockquote data-quote="tamarann" data-source="post: 750618" data-attributes="member: 24282"><p>I appreciate so much of your advice that I thought I'd ask this: my oldest son (27) went through intensive mental health treatment two years ago and has been functioning extremely well since then. Took responsibility for his poor decisions when he was younger (he has 4 felonies) and really got his life together. </p><p></p><p>Suddenly, a few months ago, he texted that he was very angry with me for having given birth to him, because depression and anxiety are hereditary. Seriously, WTF? We agreed to talk about it in person but now he refuses. This morning he texted that he doesn't know what we will accomplish by talking in person, although we have never actually had a conversation about it. </p><p></p><p>My question is, how do I respond to this so I can let it go? Part of me wants to just text back "Fine, whatever." But I also want to defend myself on some level, tell him this is crazy, etc. I get the feeling it's not worth my energy to bother. The added wrench in the works is that his dad committed suicide when he was 17 so I am very careful to make sure that he knows he is loved and wanted. (And yes, I know it is not my responsibility to make him feel loved.)</p><p></p><p>We live on the road so we'll be leaving here in a week or so, and my chance to see him will be gone. I miss him terribly, especially since our relationship had improved so drastically and wonderfully in the past couple of years. What happened????</p><p></p><p>Again, thank you for listening. This place has been a real sanctuary for my mama heart <3</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="tamarann, post: 750618, member: 24282"] I appreciate so much of your advice that I thought I'd ask this: my oldest son (27) went through intensive mental health treatment two years ago and has been functioning extremely well since then. Took responsibility for his poor decisions when he was younger (he has 4 felonies) and really got his life together. Suddenly, a few months ago, he texted that he was very angry with me for having given birth to him, because depression and anxiety are hereditary. Seriously, WTF? We agreed to talk about it in person but now he refuses. This morning he texted that he doesn't know what we will accomplish by talking in person, although we have never actually had a conversation about it. My question is, how do I respond to this so I can let it go? Part of me wants to just text back "Fine, whatever." But I also want to defend myself on some level, tell him this is crazy, etc. I get the feeling it's not worth my energy to bother. The added wrench in the works is that his dad committed suicide when he was 17 so I am very careful to make sure that he knows he is loved and wanted. (And yes, I know it is not my responsibility to make him feel loved.) We live on the road so we'll be leaving here in a week or so, and my chance to see him will be gone. I miss him terribly, especially since our relationship had improved so drastically and wonderfully in the past couple of years. What happened???? Again, thank you for listening. This place has been a real sanctuary for my mama heart <3 [/QUOTE]
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