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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 269850" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Sue</p><p> </p><p>It's simple. As long as difficult child is being mean and nasty, don't help him at all. Nothing. Not a thing. I'd be hard pressed to even talk to him. (I don't do mean and nasty)</p><p> </p><p>I know he could use more time in the Residential Treatment Center (RTC), but that's not gonna happen. He blew it, not you.</p><p> </p><p>I know your Mommy instincts are kicking in full blast. But best thing would be to ignore them. If you help him while he's behaving this way you'll be rewarding the behavior and it's most likely going to get worse.</p><p> </p><p>Bed and dresser are luxuries. He can sleep on the floor and use a laundry basket for clean clothes and another for dirty. If the floor is really awful, he can buy an air mattress......cheap one for swimming pools. (lucky we're in season)</p><p> </p><p>I know you want to help. And I know (and understand) you're worried about how he's gonna make it. But on the rare occasions my kids have acted entitled, mean and nasty it's like someone from above shuts off a switch inside me. And I just can't bring myself to do a darn thing for them. I'm glad it happens cuz I don't think I'd want to experience my mother's heart warring with my brain.</p><p> </p><p>Sue, if this were a stranger treating you this way........would you feel the same need to help them?</p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>Don't be.</p><p> </p><p>I know this has got to be terribly hard.</p><p> </p><p>(((hugs))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 269850, member: 84"] Sue It's simple. As long as difficult child is being mean and nasty, don't help him at all. Nothing. Not a thing. I'd be hard pressed to even talk to him. (I don't do mean and nasty) I know he could use more time in the Residential Treatment Center (RTC), but that's not gonna happen. He blew it, not you. I know your Mommy instincts are kicking in full blast. But best thing would be to ignore them. If you help him while he's behaving this way you'll be rewarding the behavior and it's most likely going to get worse. Bed and dresser are luxuries. He can sleep on the floor and use a laundry basket for clean clothes and another for dirty. If the floor is really awful, he can buy an air mattress......cheap one for swimming pools. (lucky we're in season) I know you want to help. And I know (and understand) you're worried about how he's gonna make it. But on the rare occasions my kids have acted entitled, mean and nasty it's like someone from above shuts off a switch inside me. And I just can't bring myself to do a darn thing for them. I'm glad it happens cuz I don't think I'd want to experience my mother's heart warring with my brain. Sue, if this were a stranger treating you this way........would you feel the same need to help them? Don't be. I know this has got to be terribly hard. (((hugs)) [/QUOTE]
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