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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 269858" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>Sue, in his state, he is going to screw it up with all the help you give him or without help of any sort. </p><p>What is the expected outcome? Can you influence his outcome? </p><p>So what are your choices? </p><p>What can you do to not have difficult child taint the rest of the family's life? I do not believe the whole family should go down with the difficult child ship. We (parents and non difficult child children) have the same right to a life that difficult child has and we shouldn't have to be punished for making more acceptable choices. </p><p></p><p>I don't really know of anything that eases a mother's despair until parents make the decision that difficult child is not us and we don't have to control the world to fit him. We are not responsible for his pain, anger or mistakes. We help where we can, guide when they listen and have a life that is full and meaningful with or without difficult child. After 18 or 21 there is little we can do.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 269858, member: 3"] Sue, in his state, he is going to screw it up with all the help you give him or without help of any sort. What is the expected outcome? Can you influence his outcome? So what are your choices? What can you do to not have difficult child taint the rest of the family's life? I do not believe the whole family should go down with the difficult child ship. We (parents and non difficult child children) have the same right to a life that difficult child has and we shouldn't have to be punished for making more acceptable choices. I don't really know of anything that eases a mother's despair until parents make the decision that difficult child is not us and we don't have to control the world to fit him. We are not responsible for his pain, anger or mistakes. We help where we can, guide when they listen and have a life that is full and meaningful with or without difficult child. After 18 or 21 there is little we can do. [/QUOTE]
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