Crayola, regardless of their intentions or deeds I doubt it will work and we cant stop it. In an in law situation, which I dont know if you are in or not, the grandparents have no control over the other side. And we dont want to put our kids in the middle. in my opinion it doesnt work out well.
There is usually one side that is more dominant. That doesnt mean that the grandkids will grow up to love them more. But either way if we get involved we are in my opinion overstepping our boundaries. Our kids need to do it. Or not. It is not up to us. Life isnt fair and some things you best just let go of. in my opinion this is one. Our kids are adults. They decide what to do or not do. Not the grandparents.
Its a free country and if one set of grandparents wants to demean the other, in any way, we cant stop them. Again, the kids can take a chance and speak out for us, but most kids just want peace all around and let these petty things go. I dont blame them.