We are ok with seeing them here and there. But NOT every holiday. We are tired of that. Big time. Especially since she (mother in law) often behaves very oddly. Can be snarky. And I’m well aware of these types of things behind the scenes.
I understand it’s not too uncommon for in laws to compare and be jealous.
On occasion of course I hope our Xmas presents will be just as good or better than theirs. (This is just a random example) BUT, I think interestingly and probably we are a little different in this regard, I put a stop to it and we just do our own thing. I am not prone to jesloysy and won’t go there. We buy what we like. I wear what I like. I am my own person. This actually seems to pxss people off more. Omg. And, if I do get a random thought like that (a bit of jealousy) I quickly let it go. I won’t allow myself to be so petty. I am my own person.
on the other hand, it’s particularly disturbing when I see people can take their pettiness and negatively influence a child. Ugh. Sad.
They are toxic. Other people within the family are having very similar troubles. But I keep my nose out of it.
Poor daughter in law is trying to “remake” her mom into a giving , caring and non snarky woman. It would be too troubling for her to know that her mom might be playing these odd , silly and likely toxic mind games with her child.
Fingers crossed she will stop. Fingers crossed it won’t worsen.
Thank you very much for allowing me to share this most private and difficult burden.
