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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 751571" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Dear JP. I am just seeing this. Sorry I did not respond sooner.</p><p>No. Is a complete sentence. You don't need to justify or explain yourself to them. </p><p></p><p>There is no way I would recommend to you that you continue any communication, let alone subsidize older son, with this kind of abuse. This is close to what Beta's son did.</p><p></p><p>How much of this do we have to see, experience, hear to decide, <strong><em>no more.</em> </strong> I urge you to STOP paying for anything. To stop any and all contact. </p><p></p><p>There is a concept in psychology called "intermittent reinforcement" in behavior modification. When behavior is reinforced intermittently this is the hardest of all behavior to extinguish. What that means is that when you pay sometimes, in an unpredictable manner, your son is always looking for this to reoccur. He never gets the idea that it will stop. He is always looking for the next time. It is like a gambler with a jackpot.</p><p></p><p>Stop paying at all! Block him. He is poison to you. He is treating you like you are the worst garbage. You are not!!! You deserve to be treated as the treasure and the blessing that you are. NO MORE!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 751571, member: 18958"] Dear JP. I am just seeing this. Sorry I did not respond sooner. No. Is a complete sentence. You don't need to justify or explain yourself to them. There is no way I would recommend to you that you continue any communication, let alone subsidize older son, with this kind of abuse. This is close to what Beta's son did. How much of this do we have to see, experience, hear to decide, [B][I]no more.[/I] [/B] I urge you to STOP paying for anything. To stop any and all contact. There is a concept in psychology called "intermittent reinforcement" in behavior modification. When behavior is reinforced intermittently this is the hardest of all behavior to extinguish. What that means is that when you pay sometimes, in an unpredictable manner, your son is always looking for this to reoccur. He never gets the idea that it will stop. He is always looking for the next time. It is like a gambler with a jackpot. Stop paying at all! Block him. He is poison to you. He is treating you like you are the worst garbage. You are not!!! You deserve to be treated as the treasure and the blessing that you are. NO MORE! [/QUOTE]
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