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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 751598" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>This is how I look at it.</p><p></p><p>It may be that 100 percent of Josh's behavior is fueled by his illness..., i.e. caused by it.</p><p></p><p>At the same time he is 100 percent responsible for it. Not responsible in the sense that he intended it or caused it. But that he is responsible to live with it. And he is responsible to be open to changing it, through putting himself into treatment, opening up to support from professionals, and eventually implementing and sustaining change day to day, by choosing to live well.</p><p></p><p>In this latter sense he is obligated to, accountable for living with the consequences of his illness. He will either do so constructively, over time, or not. Why is he accountable or responsible in this sense? Because it's his life. In my faith we teach that each of us receives a portion of blessing and curse. It is our job to learn. Josh is no different.</p><p></p><p>He has been presented with a life, like all of us. What he will do with it, will be his task. Mentally ill or not. He has received love and care and support. Which is still there for him. From his parents and it is available from others as well. He will have to decide if he opens to it or not. Nobody can help him with this.</p><p></p><p>Josh may be without culpability in the cause of his behavior. But he will be 100 percent responsible for it. How could it be otherwise? If he chooses to deny his illness, to deny efforts to help him, those around him will make their own choices, to limit contact, as his happening. And at some point society may step in and hold him responsible for his actions, even though it was his illness that caused them. And this may give him pause, to begin to see that he can change.</p><p></p><p>I just looked up the word.</p><p></p><p><em>adjective</em></p><p>adjective: <strong>responsible</strong></p><ol> <li data-xf-list-type="ol">having an obligation to do something, or having control over or care for someone, as part of one's job or role.<br /> "the department <strong>responsible for</strong> education"<br /> synonyms: in charge of, in control of, at the helm of, accountable for, liable for, charged with; More<br /> manage, oversee, superintend, supervise, conduct, run, look after, organize, produce, see to<br /> "the Home Office is <strong>responsible for</strong> prisons"<ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">being the primary cause of something and so able to be blamed or credited for it.<br /> "the gene was responsible for a rare type of eye cancer"<br /> synonyms: accountable, answerable, to blame;<br /> behind, at the bottom of, guilty of, culpable of;<br /> blameworthy, at fault, in the wrong<br /> "those <strong>responsible for</strong> the mistake have been dealt with"<br /> antonyms: guiltless</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">(of a job or position) involving important duties, independent decision-making, or control over others.</li> </ul></li> </ol></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 751598, member: 18958"] This is how I look at it. It may be that 100 percent of Josh's behavior is fueled by his illness..., i.e. caused by it. At the same time he is 100 percent responsible for it. Not responsible in the sense that he intended it or caused it. But that he is responsible to live with it. And he is responsible to be open to changing it, through putting himself into treatment, opening up to support from professionals, and eventually implementing and sustaining change day to day, by choosing to live well. In this latter sense he is obligated to, accountable for living with the consequences of his illness. He will either do so constructively, over time, or not. Why is he accountable or responsible in this sense? Because it's his life. In my faith we teach that each of us receives a portion of blessing and curse. It is our job to learn. Josh is no different. He has been presented with a life, like all of us. What he will do with it, will be his task. Mentally ill or not. He has received love and care and support. Which is still there for him. From his parents and it is available from others as well. He will have to decide if he opens to it or not. Nobody can help him with this. Josh may be without culpability in the cause of his behavior. But he will be 100 percent responsible for it. How could it be otherwise? If he chooses to deny his illness, to deny efforts to help him, those around him will make their own choices, to limit contact, as his happening. And at some point society may step in and hold him responsible for his actions, even though it was his illness that caused them. And this may give him pause, to begin to see that he can change. I just looked up the word. [I]adjective[/I] adjective: [B]responsible[/B] [LIST=1] [*]having an obligation to do something, or having control over or care for someone, as part of one's job or role. "the department [B]responsible for[/B] education" synonyms: in charge of, in control of, at the helm of, accountable for, liable for, charged with; More manage, oversee, superintend, supervise, conduct, run, look after, organize, produce, see to "the Home Office is [B]responsible for[/B] prisons" [LIST] [*]being the primary cause of something and so able to be blamed or credited for it. "the gene was responsible for a rare type of eye cancer" synonyms: accountable, answerable, to blame; behind, at the bottom of, guilty of, culpable of; blameworthy, at fault, in the wrong "those [B]responsible for[/B] the mistake have been dealt with" antonyms: guiltless [*](of a job or position) involving important duties, independent decision-making, or control over others. [/LIST] [/LIST] [/QUOTE]
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