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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 751610" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>Wise, we are lucky with the younger two. Yet we, to be honest, rather ignored them for much of their childhood because our focus was on Kay. Mine was in particular. </p><p></p><p>And I also put the best husband ever on the backburner because he didn't always think buying Kay houses, cars, food that she could use a food share card to purchase, clothes that she could get for free at our church, Iphones etc...well, he started to think we should stop the endless Christmas for Kay. We almost divorced. The younger kids saw me stay home from their athletic events if Kay was having a bad day and needed me. And Kay always had bad days and was jealous if I paid attention to my other kids. They were closer to their father. He went when I refused to leave Kay.</p><p></p><p>I felt I had to fix the broken one and the others would be okay. Little did I realize that I was broken as well. I thought I was being a good mom. Lol.</p><p></p><p>The other kids both have good hearts but have spoken to me about feeling neglected. That my son can say I am the best mom is a testimony to his goodness, not my parenting. Same with Amy. Fortunately they not only accepted my forgiveness but say they understand that I felt Kay needed me more.</p><p></p><p>If they had been less loving and understanding I would feel better. Their unconditional kindness and love makes me feel guilty. I will spend the rest of my days making my negligence up to these three. I know God blessed me. I am not sure I deserve it. I never bought the other kids homes or multiple cars or iPhones. I figured they didn't need these gifts. They were capable.</p><p></p><p>There is nothing like buying your beloved child a car one day and hearing an insincere "Thank you. Love you." Then as shoon as there is car trouble i hear "Hey, Mary (not my real first name), you b@#$&. You got me this piece of sh$# car! Fix it! Think I can afford to fix this crap just because you got such a sh@#$y car? I told you to buy a new one! You just don't think I am your real kid,Mary, so either fix it or you will never see Jaden. I got the car because we have a baby now. Or did you forget?"</p><p></p><p>Yep. Life enabling Kay and putting her before the rest of the world.</p><p></p><p>I feel lucky, but also very guilty.</p><p></p><p>God bless you all. Learn from me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 751610, member: 23706"] Wise, we are lucky with the younger two. Yet we, to be honest, rather ignored them for much of their childhood because our focus was on Kay. Mine was in particular. And I also put the best husband ever on the backburner because he didn't always think buying Kay houses, cars, food that she could use a food share card to purchase, clothes that she could get for free at our church, Iphones etc...well, he started to think we should stop the endless Christmas for Kay. We almost divorced. The younger kids saw me stay home from their athletic events if Kay was having a bad day and needed me. And Kay always had bad days and was jealous if I paid attention to my other kids. They were closer to their father. He went when I refused to leave Kay. I felt I had to fix the broken one and the others would be okay. Little did I realize that I was broken as well. I thought I was being a good mom. Lol. The other kids both have good hearts but have spoken to me about feeling neglected. That my son can say I am the best mom is a testimony to his goodness, not my parenting. Same with Amy. Fortunately they not only accepted my forgiveness but say they understand that I felt Kay needed me more. If they had been less loving and understanding I would feel better. Their unconditional kindness and love makes me feel guilty. I will spend the rest of my days making my negligence up to these three. I know God blessed me. I am not sure I deserve it. I never bought the other kids homes or multiple cars or iPhones. I figured they didn't need these gifts. They were capable. There is nothing like buying your beloved child a car one day and hearing an insincere "Thank you. Love you." Then as shoon as there is car trouble i hear "Hey, Mary (not my real first name), you b@#$&. You got me this piece of sh$# car! Fix it! Think I can afford to fix this crap just because you got such a sh@#$y car? I told you to buy a new one! You just don't think I am your real kid,Mary, so either fix it or you will never see Jaden. I got the car because we have a baby now. Or did you forget?" Yep. Life enabling Kay and putting her before the rest of the world. I feel lucky, but also very guilty. God bless you all. Learn from me. [/QUOTE]
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