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<blockquote data-quote="JayPee" data-source="post: 751620" data-attributes="member: 23405"><p>RN</p><p></p><p>I know I have to be more open and listen for guidance. I’m doing better than I was even 6 months ago but I still have a long way to go. </p><p></p><p>Even with today’s issues with younger son I handled it way better than before. In the past I handled both adult sons requests/demands for $ or other things they could do for themselves like it was a “hot potato”. I couldn’t stand the thought of their discomfort and immediately had to make it go away. This for me has by far been my biggest hurdle. I try to not react but rather act. I pray for strength and then I wait. I wait for them to do for themselves or not. I’m not lashing back to verbal abuse and trying to justify the insane things anymore that they say to keep me engaged in conversation one way or the other. I also have had the courage to block them. One day last year I went to a local fair and older son was wishing me dead and was texting vicious things to me all day long. I could not block him. How sick is that? At some level I felt I deserved listen to his remarks. </p><p></p><p>Sorry to go on. I think this was cathartic for me to see that I may have a ways to go but I’ve come far.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JayPee, post: 751620, member: 23405"] RN I know I have to be more open and listen for guidance. I’m doing better than I was even 6 months ago but I still have a long way to go. Even with today’s issues with younger son I handled it way better than before. In the past I handled both adult sons requests/demands for $ or other things they could do for themselves like it was a “hot potato”. I couldn’t stand the thought of their discomfort and immediately had to make it go away. This for me has by far been my biggest hurdle. I try to not react but rather act. I pray for strength and then I wait. I wait for them to do for themselves or not. I’m not lashing back to verbal abuse and trying to justify the insane things anymore that they say to keep me engaged in conversation one way or the other. I also have had the courage to block them. One day last year I went to a local fair and older son was wishing me dead and was texting vicious things to me all day long. I could not block him. How sick is that? At some level I felt I deserved listen to his remarks. Sorry to go on. I think this was cathartic for me to see that I may have a ways to go but I’ve come far. [/QUOTE]
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