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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 751627" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>Jaypee...</p><p>It saddened me to read that text. I’m so sorry. It had to be very upsetting.</p><p>I would cut off older son until such time as he can treat you with respect. You decide in what limited way you might help him. Not in the many ways you are doing currently. Pick one perhaps. And then stick to your guns.</p><p></p><p>When I get phone solicitations and the person is very pushy, I literally turn the phone upside down so I can no longer hear a word they are saying. I’m probably speaking over them. And I say something like “Thank you for calling. I’m not interested in this product. Good luck and have a nice day. “ click.</p><p></p><p>So...in a similar manner you might call or better yet text your son and say I am no longer paying for the following items....I will pay for xxxx for the time being. Additionally, I no longer will accept vulgar or inappropriate texts from you. If I receive any further communications from you like that again, I will block you for one month.</p><p></p><p>(Just an example)</p><p></p><p>We pay for our daughter’s cell phone. One of the hardest things I’ve done in the past was cut it off for a few days. She was rude to me and I warned her. She not only loves her phone because of all the usual reasons , but it’s an important safety tool. She greatly hesitates to be rude to me now via text etc. and if she pushes me, all it takes us a threat. Sometimes, if she is just annoying...a temporary block her.</p><p></p><p>Please do not tolerate such horrible language and what is bottom line abuse.</p><p></p><p>Think if it this way...you are not doing him any favors by tolerating it. You are inadvertently teaching him that being cruel and abusive us ok. It’s not. Such behaviors shows a complete lack of self control and can land someone in jail.</p><p></p><p>He needs logical consequences. This was so bad, you need to keep him away from you.</p><p>You need to stay away from him, I think.</p><p></p><p>Please listen to what the others have said.</p><p></p><p>Although my daughter has been extremely difficult and impulsive and at times mean...she would hesitate to use these words ...this language.</p><p></p><p>It’s scary.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 751627, member: 4152"] Jaypee... It saddened me to read that text. I’m so sorry. It had to be very upsetting. I would cut off older son until such time as he can treat you with respect. You decide in what limited way you might help him. Not in the many ways you are doing currently. Pick one perhaps. And then stick to your guns. When I get phone solicitations and the person is very pushy, I literally turn the phone upside down so I can no longer hear a word they are saying. I’m probably speaking over them. And I say something like “Thank you for calling. I’m not interested in this product. Good luck and have a nice day. “ click. So...in a similar manner you might call or better yet text your son and say I am no longer paying for the following items....I will pay for xxxx for the time being. Additionally, I no longer will accept vulgar or inappropriate texts from you. If I receive any further communications from you like that again, I will block you for one month. (Just an example) We pay for our daughter’s cell phone. One of the hardest things I’ve done in the past was cut it off for a few days. She was rude to me and I warned her. She not only loves her phone because of all the usual reasons , but it’s an important safety tool. She greatly hesitates to be rude to me now via text etc. and if she pushes me, all it takes us a threat. Sometimes, if she is just annoying...a temporary block her. Please do not tolerate such horrible language and what is bottom line abuse. Think if it this way...you are not doing him any favors by tolerating it. You are inadvertently teaching him that being cruel and abusive us ok. It’s not. Such behaviors shows a complete lack of self control and can land someone in jail. He needs logical consequences. This was so bad, you need to keep him away from you. You need to stay away from him, I think. Please listen to what the others have said. Although my daughter has been extremely difficult and impulsive and at times mean...she would hesitate to use these words ...this language. It’s scary. [/QUOTE]
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