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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 24511" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I think most psychiatrists understand attachment disorders and PTSD. I wouldn't look for a specialist in anything yet. I'd let the diagnostic process go through. Our experience with an attachment therapist was that, simply because one of our sons was adopted, he had attachment disorder and THAT was the cause of everything. Not only was that wrong, but he doesn't have attachment disorder. He is not living with us anymore (this is the nice kid that we sent to foster care because he got caught up in the mess with the abusive child we adopted, but is is VERY bonded to his new family! We keep in touch. He is not only NOT a behavior problem, but is acing school and doing sports and bucking everything that a foster child is supposed to be. We decided to let him go because he'd been abused in our home (by his elevin year old brother). This child had been through enough sexual abuse even before he came to us (and, guess what????? Again, the state didn't "know" about it!!!). Anyways, I'd get the other stuff under control and see what's left over. You can do the bonding stuff after you see what else is going on. Most parents who lose their rights to their kids have serious mental health issues, and these are hereditary.Also, again, he may have been alcohol or drug affected too. Let the neuropsychologist look at him first (my own personal opinion) and do the attachment stuff later, after everything else shakes out. There are therapists who believe all adopted kids can't bond, and I find them dangerous. It's simply not true. Your son's behavior can be caused by so many issues that I wouldn't hone in on one thing right now. I'd keep an open mind and listen to a regular Psychiatrist and a neuropsychologist. We had our son (the one still with us) see both, and it was over-the-top helpful. Way back when we also had some turd tell us the kid had attachment disorder and that's why he was raging. He didn't have it. He is attached to my hip now...lol. I imagine your son DOES have some attachment issues, but I doubt that's the only thing going on and you kind of have to treat it like an orchestra--get everything in sync. So I'd just see well-informed professionals and not focus on anyone who specializes. Again, our experience with specialists is that they see their specialty in every child (ie: they specialize in ADHD then the kids they see all have ADHD, they specialize in bipolar, the kids all have mood disorders, they specialize in attachment therapy (and most of these therapists are NOT doctors) you spend a ton of money and, if adopted, yes, your child has attachment problems causing everything). Just to start out, I would avoid anyone who "spcializes" in just one disorder. You don't have to take my advice and I'm certainly not the last and only word, but I'm passing along what I think would help the most and take from it what you will and take from the others what you will. Just don't try to do it alone. It's too hard for you. And I certainly understand your school rant. Been there/done that :smile:</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 24511, member: 1550"] I think most psychiatrists understand attachment disorders and PTSD. I wouldn't look for a specialist in anything yet. I'd let the diagnostic process go through. Our experience with an attachment therapist was that, simply because one of our sons was adopted, he had attachment disorder and THAT was the cause of everything. Not only was that wrong, but he doesn't have attachment disorder. He is not living with us anymore (this is the nice kid that we sent to foster care because he got caught up in the mess with the abusive child we adopted, but is is VERY bonded to his new family! We keep in touch. He is not only NOT a behavior problem, but is acing school and doing sports and bucking everything that a foster child is supposed to be. We decided to let him go because he'd been abused in our home (by his elevin year old brother). This child had been through enough sexual abuse even before he came to us (and, guess what????? Again, the state didn't "know" about it!!!). Anyways, I'd get the other stuff under control and see what's left over. You can do the bonding stuff after you see what else is going on. Most parents who lose their rights to their kids have serious mental health issues, and these are hereditary.Also, again, he may have been alcohol or drug affected too. Let the neuropsychologist look at him first (my own personal opinion) and do the attachment stuff later, after everything else shakes out. There are therapists who believe all adopted kids can't bond, and I find them dangerous. It's simply not true. Your son's behavior can be caused by so many issues that I wouldn't hone in on one thing right now. I'd keep an open mind and listen to a regular Psychiatrist and a neuropsychologist. We had our son (the one still with us) see both, and it was over-the-top helpful. Way back when we also had some turd tell us the kid had attachment disorder and that's why he was raging. He didn't have it. He is attached to my hip now...lol. I imagine your son DOES have some attachment issues, but I doubt that's the only thing going on and you kind of have to treat it like an orchestra--get everything in sync. So I'd just see well-informed professionals and not focus on anyone who specializes. Again, our experience with specialists is that they see their specialty in every child (ie: they specialize in ADHD then the kids they see all have ADHD, they specialize in bipolar, the kids all have mood disorders, they specialize in attachment therapy (and most of these therapists are NOT doctors) you spend a ton of money and, if adopted, yes, your child has attachment problems causing everything). Just to start out, I would avoid anyone who "spcializes" in just one disorder. You don't have to take my advice and I'm certainly not the last and only word, but I'm passing along what I think would help the most and take from it what you will and take from the others what you will. Just don't try to do it alone. It's too hard for you. And I certainly understand your school rant. Been there/done that [img]:smile:[/img] [/QUOTE]
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