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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 157355" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: navy">The Beatles were wrong when they said, "All you need is love"...dead wrong.</span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: navy">Your H loves you; you love your H - but that's not enough. It's frustrating to always be the organized one, the one who wants to understand and make clear from A to Z what the plan is and how to go about getting it done.</span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: navy">You must be married to my H...he's a God on the job...gets things done, knows exactly how to build a house from bottom to top, perfectly. At home, he either won't do a project he says he will or he won't finish it or he won't do it according to my specification (ie, the way I ASKED for it to be done).</span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: navy">My H built a second floor on our home. It's basically a shell with windows. The roof is on, the siding is on, the windows are in. But there are no walls framed, no plumbing installed, no electrical wires, not even stairs so we can go up and plan and dream about what it may look like in about 8 million years. He started this project last July and said we would be living up there by end of this summer. The other day he said he hopes to have the walls sheetrocked and the electrical in by October of this year. I just sort of looked at him with mouth agape. <strong>Every time I want to discuss the bathroom, closet layouts, window seats, anything at all, he clams up. When he wants to talk about it, he won't shut up. We're never on the same page.</strong></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: navy">I have a flat garden out front. This year I wanted him to make some raised boxes for it so I could get it started early. We discussed this back in March. Then H fell into this funk and self pitying poor me thing and basically slumps on the couch when he's home - too exhausted to do anything. I was prodding him every week until finally I just stopped. Now it's Memorial Day weekend, the official weekend that I put my plants in and the garden is raw - nothing is laid out, not one scrap of wood has been bought. I'm tilling it tomorrow and buying my plants and putting them in, without the boxes. H will get really really mad at me and probably yell a little that it's somehow my fault it never was organized or something - hogwash.</span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: navy">Anyway, didn't mean to write a book, but your post sounded so similar. Just wanted you to know, you're certainly not alone (which you likely already know) and send along some hugs. </span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 157355, member: 2211"] [SIZE=3][COLOR=navy]The Beatles were wrong when they said, "All you need is love"...dead wrong.[/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=navy]Your H loves you; you love your H - but that's not enough. It's frustrating to always be the organized one, the one who wants to understand and make clear from A to Z what the plan is and how to go about getting it done.[/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=navy]You must be married to my H...he's a God on the job...gets things done, knows exactly how to build a house from bottom to top, perfectly. At home, he either won't do a project he says he will or he won't finish it or he won't do it according to my specification (ie, the way I ASKED for it to be done).[/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=navy]My H built a second floor on our home. It's basically a shell with windows. The roof is on, the siding is on, the windows are in. But there are no walls framed, no plumbing installed, no electrical wires, not even stairs so we can go up and plan and dream about what it may look like in about 8 million years. He started this project last July and said we would be living up there by end of this summer. The other day he said he hopes to have the walls sheetrocked and the electrical in by October of this year. I just sort of looked at him with mouth agape. [B]Every time I want to discuss the bathroom, closet layouts, window seats, anything at all, he clams up. When he wants to talk about it, he won't shut up. We're never on the same page.[/B][/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=navy]I have a flat garden out front. This year I wanted him to make some raised boxes for it so I could get it started early. We discussed this back in March. Then H fell into this funk and self pitying poor me thing and basically slumps on the couch when he's home - too exhausted to do anything. I was prodding him every week until finally I just stopped. Now it's Memorial Day weekend, the official weekend that I put my plants in and the garden is raw - nothing is laid out, not one scrap of wood has been bought. I'm tilling it tomorrow and buying my plants and putting them in, without the boxes. H will get really really mad at me and probably yell a little that it's somehow my fault it never was organized or something - hogwash.[/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=navy]Anyway, didn't mean to write a book, but your post sounded so similar. Just wanted you to know, you're certainly not alone (which you likely already know) and send along some hugs. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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