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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 157443" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>Thanks, all. Yes we love each other. Enough for me to want to change my expectations so that I won't feel disappointed all the time. been there done that with the blow torch - except it would be a pry bar or a hammer. He is dysfunctional, but not always. Only at home. Maybe that is why I'm so impatient. I know he can apply himself and get things done if he wants, but he doesn't want to do it for me. I think he feels safe enough that he doesn't have to try at home. He shouldn't.</p><p></p><p>My biggest problem is my physical health. My legs are so weak now I should really be using a power chair. But I don't. Mostly vanity, but also because I would be too low to the ground to get anything done in the house, and I'd have to be standing up out of the chair all of the time to reach anything no matter where I went. Standing up and sitting down is killer for me. But in my head, I remember how to do woodwork and tile. I can see a kitchen design in my head and I don't see the finished product, I see the studs and framing and trim and how to get from studs to trim in a logical order. But I can't do that. He doesn't see that at all, but he can do it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 157443, member: 99"] Thanks, all. Yes we love each other. Enough for me to want to change my expectations so that I won't feel disappointed all the time. been there done that with the blow torch - except it would be a pry bar or a hammer. He is dysfunctional, but not always. Only at home. Maybe that is why I'm so impatient. I know he can apply himself and get things done if he wants, but he doesn't want to do it for me. I think he feels safe enough that he doesn't have to try at home. He shouldn't. My biggest problem is my physical health. My legs are so weak now I should really be using a power chair. But I don't. Mostly vanity, but also because I would be too low to the ground to get anything done in the house, and I'd have to be standing up out of the chair all of the time to reach anything no matter where I went. Standing up and sitting down is killer for me. But in my head, I remember how to do woodwork and tile. I can see a kitchen design in my head and I don't see the finished product, I see the studs and framing and trim and how to get from studs to trim in a logical order. But I can't do that. He doesn't see that at all, but he can do it. [/QUOTE]
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