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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 130706" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>Ok, there was a lot in the post. Sounds like your son's aggression is increasing. What has the school done regarding the latest "He pushed one girl, slapped another and slammed 5 kids down to the ground during recess." That's some serious physical aggression for an 8 year old. How do you all address these types of things at home? What type of consequences does your son have for physically touching someone in an angry manner? That needs to be nipped in the bud before that comes home to you, husband, and the baby, in my opinion.</p><p> </p><p>In regards to ex, I do understand a little how husband feels. The two of you talk every day, he gives you rides to both kids appointments, he has offered you his car, you attend "family" therapy together even though husband is your new family (you and ex should be doing this seperately, even though I understand why it would be beneficial to meet together occasionally), he comes in your and husband's home and sits down and eats as if it's nothing. That's a lot of "husband and wife" type behavior. </p><p> </p><p>I am absolutely sure that husband feels very threatened. It is his responsibility to take care of you (and your son is part of you). He may not be able to provide you with new or additional transportation and it probably really bothers him that your ex can do it. It probably makes him feel like and inadequate provider. He loves you, your son and your'alls baby. He wants to be the provider and the strong one. Watching your ex become a friend rather than just "the ex" is not sitting well with him.</p><p> </p><p>Personally, I believe you do need to be sensative to his feelings. Look at the contact you and ex have right now and decide what is absolutely mandatory. Part of being a good marriage partner is compromise. If this bothers your partner so much, don't you think it's worth bending for? </p><p> </p><p>How would you feel were the tables turned. If he were to talk to his ex every single day? If he and his ex were driving around town together? If his ex came in and ate at your home as if it were nothing? I think it would be natural to feel a little threatened.</p><p> </p><p>Just my two cents.</p><p> </p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 130706, member: 805"] Ok, there was a lot in the post. Sounds like your son's aggression is increasing. What has the school done regarding the latest "He pushed one girl, slapped another and slammed 5 kids down to the ground during recess." That's some serious physical aggression for an 8 year old. How do you all address these types of things at home? What type of consequences does your son have for physically touching someone in an angry manner? That needs to be nipped in the bud before that comes home to you, husband, and the baby, in my opinion. In regards to ex, I do understand a little how husband feels. The two of you talk every day, he gives you rides to both kids appointments, he has offered you his car, you attend "family" therapy together even though husband is your new family (you and ex should be doing this seperately, even though I understand why it would be beneficial to meet together occasionally), he comes in your and husband's home and sits down and eats as if it's nothing. That's a lot of "husband and wife" type behavior. I am absolutely sure that husband feels very threatened. It is his responsibility to take care of you (and your son is part of you). He may not be able to provide you with new or additional transportation and it probably really bothers him that your ex can do it. It probably makes him feel like and inadequate provider. He loves you, your son and your'alls baby. He wants to be the provider and the strong one. Watching your ex become a friend rather than just "the ex" is not sitting well with him. Personally, I believe you do need to be sensative to his feelings. Look at the contact you and ex have right now and decide what is absolutely mandatory. Part of being a good marriage partner is compromise. If this bothers your partner so much, don't you think it's worth bending for? How would you feel were the tables turned. If he were to talk to his ex every single day? If he and his ex were driving around town together? If his ex came in and ate at your home as if it were nothing? I think it would be natural to feel a little threatened. Just my two cents. Sharon [/QUOTE]
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