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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 131408" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Sounds to me like husband is suspicious with some cause - he's a bloke, and therefore suspicious of any other blokes with claims on your time.</p><p></p><p>Regardless of extreme statements made ("I'd rather you walked") - he's clearly trying to get across to you how strongly he feels, I doubt very much that he would be happy if you DID walk - I don't think it's you he doesn't trust, I think it's your ex. Also, you share things with your ex that you don't share with husband - it's just the way things are.</p><p></p><p>I have a gem of a husband, but if this were my situation, I think I'd be hearing the same things from him. I know he would be having a very hard time coping with jealousy, even though as a rule we don't have room for jealousy in our relationship.</p><p></p><p>Is there any chance your ex could be hoping that your relationship with him might blossom again? Even if he's currently behaving like a perfect gentleman, he could be just waiting, biding his time and secretly enjoying the conflict his presence is causing, between you and husband. Then if/when your relationship with husband goes pear-shaped, your loving ex will be waiting in the wings to comfort you...</p><p></p><p>If that is what husband sees and is afraid of - I can't say I would blame him. The way he's handling it may not be healthy, but a frustrated man afraid for his woman is not the most reasonable creature in the world.</p><p></p><p>And there is nothing you can say that could reassure him, because as I said, it's not YOU he is distrusting.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 131408, member: 1991"] Sounds to me like husband is suspicious with some cause - he's a bloke, and therefore suspicious of any other blokes with claims on your time. Regardless of extreme statements made ("I'd rather you walked") - he's clearly trying to get across to you how strongly he feels, I doubt very much that he would be happy if you DID walk - I don't think it's you he doesn't trust, I think it's your ex. Also, you share things with your ex that you don't share with husband - it's just the way things are. I have a gem of a husband, but if this were my situation, I think I'd be hearing the same things from him. I know he would be having a very hard time coping with jealousy, even though as a rule we don't have room for jealousy in our relationship. Is there any chance your ex could be hoping that your relationship with him might blossom again? Even if he's currently behaving like a perfect gentleman, he could be just waiting, biding his time and secretly enjoying the conflict his presence is causing, between you and husband. Then if/when your relationship with husband goes pear-shaped, your loving ex will be waiting in the wings to comfort you... If that is what husband sees and is afraid of - I can't say I would blame him. The way he's handling it may not be healthy, but a frustrated man afraid for his woman is not the most reasonable creature in the world. And there is nothing you can say that could reassure him, because as I said, it's not YOU he is distrusting. Marg [/QUOTE]
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