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<blockquote data-quote="kim75062" data-source="post: 720945" data-attributes="member: 20727"><p>Thanks ladies <img class="smilie smilie--emoji" loading="lazy" alt="❤️" title="Red heart :heart:" src="https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/6.6/png/unicode/64/2764.png" data-shortname=":heart:" />.</p><p></p><p> I know she needs way more then love, I'm sure her parents give her plenty of that. by the sounds of it she needs some serious therapy at the least. </p><p></p><p>I'm definitely not good with the whole drama type stuff. I'm a very laid back person that deals with things as they come and don't stress about them. </p><p></p><p>Lucky for me there's really no where for her stay with me anyway. I'm moving in a few months to a bigger house so my mother has more space (she already lives with me due to aging and health problems) and the better school district for difficult son. </p><p></p><p>She still has plenty of options for family down in the state she's in anyway that I'm sure will end up being a better choice. She did post on Facebook yesterday that she can't handle living with biomom and is ready to go back home. Hubby encouraged her to go back home and take a break from all the new people in her life and recollect her thoughts and feelings of it all where she feels safest. </p><p></p><p>She also messaged me for my opinion, I think because I'm familiar with the situation but also still an outsider looking in to the situation. I told her do whatever she feels is right for her and not to worry about hurting anyone else feelings including her biomom and biodad. I assured her that we have no expectations of her and will be here whenever she is ready if she is ever ready to build a relationship. </p><p></p><p>I think the problem with her current situation is it was to many people to fast that all want to be part of her life. Biomom has not accepted the fact she's not her mom anymore from what I can tell. And now there's endless siblings, aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins etc. all looking for that long lost relationship. </p><p></p><p>Why I'm not really sure, if any of these people cared so much where were they 18 years ago? The only one that was there was biograndma (biomoms mother) convincing biodad that he would completely mess up biodaughters life by trying to take her out of foster care. Because if he did then biomom wouldn't be able to get custody back (which would be any day now) and it would split her from her siblings etc. (all lies he figured out years later and much to late).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="kim75062, post: 720945, member: 20727"] Thanks ladies ❤️. I know she needs way more then love, I'm sure her parents give her plenty of that. by the sounds of it she needs some serious therapy at the least. I'm definitely not good with the whole drama type stuff. I'm a very laid back person that deals with things as they come and don't stress about them. Lucky for me there's really no where for her stay with me anyway. I'm moving in a few months to a bigger house so my mother has more space (she already lives with me due to aging and health problems) and the better school district for difficult son. She still has plenty of options for family down in the state she's in anyway that I'm sure will end up being a better choice. She did post on Facebook yesterday that she can't handle living with biomom and is ready to go back home. Hubby encouraged her to go back home and take a break from all the new people in her life and recollect her thoughts and feelings of it all where she feels safest. She also messaged me for my opinion, I think because I'm familiar with the situation but also still an outsider looking in to the situation. I told her do whatever she feels is right for her and not to worry about hurting anyone else feelings including her biomom and biodad. I assured her that we have no expectations of her and will be here whenever she is ready if she is ever ready to build a relationship. I think the problem with her current situation is it was to many people to fast that all want to be part of her life. Biomom has not accepted the fact she's not her mom anymore from what I can tell. And now there's endless siblings, aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins etc. all looking for that long lost relationship. Why I'm not really sure, if any of these people cared so much where were they 18 years ago? The only one that was there was biograndma (biomoms mother) convincing biodad that he would completely mess up biodaughters life by trying to take her out of foster care. Because if he did then biomom wouldn't be able to get custody back (which would be any day now) and it would split her from her siblings etc. (all lies he figured out years later and much to late). [/QUOTE]
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