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Husband has an adult child that was adopted.
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 726491" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I would say that like too many adoptive parents she wanted her adopted child to share her DNA abilities which doesn't happen. Many adoptied kids are sadly a disappointment to well off educated parents if they can't achieve at the same level they did.We were told by several social workers that parents like us, non college grads actually had much more success with adoption because our expectations tended to be realistic. Most kids who are adopted are not products of brilliant parents who are type A. Most are average people who may have had mental health issues and other limitations. Or they may be less achievement focused but</p><p></p><p>I just read an article about the high percentage of learning disabled adopted kids and that this tends to follow them through life. I get very angry at parents who would claim to love a five year old child just like he or she were born to them yet refuse to be flexible and proud when that person does his best, and it is not enough. So I agree with you!!!</p><p></p><p>On the other hand, the entire deck was stacked against her too. Her dad somehow lost touch with her and Bio. mom sounds like a piece of work!</p><p></p><p>I would not trade my kids for any kids, bio. or not. Ever. THEY are my heart and soul and if you feel any less about your adopted kids, you never should have adopted them.</p><p></p><p>I feel badly for all these kids. You would have been a good mother to this girl. You are truly big hearted and I bet you are accepring. That is important of all parents. I know many bio atenys who get upset at kids that don't go to college. in my opinion that is so wrong. If you want someone to save your wishes, get a puppy. Well, my dogs are not obidient......<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 726491, member: 1550"] I would say that like too many adoptive parents she wanted her adopted child to share her DNA abilities which doesn't happen. Many adoptied kids are sadly a disappointment to well off educated parents if they can't achieve at the same level they did.We were told by several social workers that parents like us, non college grads actually had much more success with adoption because our expectations tended to be realistic. Most kids who are adopted are not products of brilliant parents who are type A. Most are average people who may have had mental health issues and other limitations. Or they may be less achievement focused but I just read an article about the high percentage of learning disabled adopted kids and that this tends to follow them through life. I get very angry at parents who would claim to love a five year old child just like he or she were born to them yet refuse to be flexible and proud when that person does his best, and it is not enough. So I agree with you!!! On the other hand, the entire deck was stacked against her too. Her dad somehow lost touch with her and Bio. mom sounds like a piece of work! I would not trade my kids for any kids, bio. or not. Ever. THEY are my heart and soul and if you feel any less about your adopted kids, you never should have adopted them. I feel badly for all these kids. You would have been a good mother to this girl. You are truly big hearted and I bet you are accepring. That is important of all parents. I know many bio atenys who get upset at kids that don't go to college. in my opinion that is so wrong. If you want someone to save your wishes, get a puppy. Well, my dogs are not obidient......;) [/QUOTE]
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