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<blockquote data-quote="rejectedmom" data-source="post: 583980" data-attributes="member: 2315"><p>I have done alot of reading on gray divorce and the picture that the experts paint is not a pretty one. We both will suffer... me more than him but he won't have his current economic status either.</p><p></p><p>As for being careful I control of all family finances since husband went crazy a few years back. His salary is Direct Deposited into our savings account. I keep a very close watch on all the liquid assests in our names I did let him have access to his advanced inheritance of several thousand dollars which is now gone. We mostly used it to make improvements on our homes, a down payment on a car and some bills but a some of it is unaccounted for. He is supposed to get another 30K in a couple months when the estate is closed out. I will have to watch out for that. He currently gets a weekly cash allowance and has no credit cards in his possession. Of course he could get one but I would know right away because I have a security block on our Credit so all new accounts in either his or my name are verified with me before approved. I cannot do anything about his retirement accounts besides monitoring them and if he changes the password I can't even do that. Unfortunately that is where most of the retirement money is and I do worry about it. He could take it and I wouldn't know till the 1099's came at tax time. I am going to print out a statement today and also copy the statements from the retirement assets from previous jobs. I will definately get a good lawyer and he/she will ask for a full accounting of assets as a matter of routine handling. I do not know anyone to ask for a recommendation here in my new state but will ask around at my clubs. -RM</p><p></p><p>husband called today at lunchtime and says he is going to go to grief couneiling for his father and anon meetings. Bla bla bla. I agree that his father's death probably triggered him and grief counseling might help a bit but even after years of indivitual andd group therapy with Anon a part of his maintanence plan he didn't go. Said he didn't need it. (like I said arrogant). I asked for his computer but was told he smashed it and threw it out. I don't believe him but he lives away half of the week for work so I have no way of accessing his stuff he keeps at his work residence.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rejectedmom, post: 583980, member: 2315"] I have done alot of reading on gray divorce and the picture that the experts paint is not a pretty one. We both will suffer... me more than him but he won't have his current economic status either. As for being careful I control of all family finances since husband went crazy a few years back. His salary is Direct Deposited into our savings account. I keep a very close watch on all the liquid assests in our names I did let him have access to his advanced inheritance of several thousand dollars which is now gone. We mostly used it to make improvements on our homes, a down payment on a car and some bills but a some of it is unaccounted for. He is supposed to get another 30K in a couple months when the estate is closed out. I will have to watch out for that. He currently gets a weekly cash allowance and has no credit cards in his possession. Of course he could get one but I would know right away because I have a security block on our Credit so all new accounts in either his or my name are verified with me before approved. I cannot do anything about his retirement accounts besides monitoring them and if he changes the password I can't even do that. Unfortunately that is where most of the retirement money is and I do worry about it. He could take it and I wouldn't know till the 1099's came at tax time. I am going to print out a statement today and also copy the statements from the retirement assets from previous jobs. I will definately get a good lawyer and he/she will ask for a full accounting of assets as a matter of routine handling. I do not know anyone to ask for a recommendation here in my new state but will ask around at my clubs. -RM husband called today at lunchtime and says he is going to go to grief couneiling for his father and anon meetings. Bla bla bla. I agree that his father's death probably triggered him and grief counseling might help a bit but even after years of indivitual andd group therapy with Anon a part of his maintanence plan he didn't go. Said he didn't need it. (like I said arrogant). I asked for his computer but was told he smashed it and threw it out. I don't believe him but he lives away half of the week for work so I have no way of accessing his stuff he keeps at his work residence. [/QUOTE]
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