Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
General Discussions
The Watercooler
husband Has Me Feeling Passive-Aggressive This AM
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="1905" data-source="post: 560934" data-attributes="member: 2668"><p>This is just my opinion. I have food issues myself. My family hated to see my doing my thing, for your husband it's eating too much, for me it was eating too little. At some point they all decided to never push food on me, also to never discuss food with me....or listen to my nonsense about it. They told me that if I wanted to kill myself, they can't stop me, they let me alone. That was when my struggle was just with me and the food alone. My family was usually part of the battle and once they removed themselves from it, it was easier to realize what I had to do.</p><p></p><p>Try this, tell him if he wants to kill himself, fine but you won't help him. Ignore all discussion of food. Make what you and the kids want to eat, give him one portion. Put the rest in the freezer or wrap it up for work right away, don't let him have access to anything more. He will have to get his own snacks. Walk away from him when he starts his nightly binge. Don't speak of it to him, he will get a louder message than if you try to convince him. You aren't part of his battle anymore. You buy him nothing to fuel this. Keep healthy things for him to reach for if he's hungry. If the rest of your family wants a treat, fine, he just can't have access to it. Don't make brownies unless he's not home. He can't control himself. Food is his drug. We all need food to live though, so it's a tough addiction. Tell him you love him often, make him feel good about himself if you know how. I'm sure he doesn't like to be this heavy either. He needs a lot of love right now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="1905, post: 560934, member: 2668"] This is just my opinion. I have food issues myself. My family hated to see my doing my thing, for your husband it's eating too much, for me it was eating too little. At some point they all decided to never push food on me, also to never discuss food with me....or listen to my nonsense about it. They told me that if I wanted to kill myself, they can't stop me, they let me alone. That was when my struggle was just with me and the food alone. My family was usually part of the battle and once they removed themselves from it, it was easier to realize what I had to do. Try this, tell him if he wants to kill himself, fine but you won't help him. Ignore all discussion of food. Make what you and the kids want to eat, give him one portion. Put the rest in the freezer or wrap it up for work right away, don't let him have access to anything more. He will have to get his own snacks. Walk away from him when he starts his nightly binge. Don't speak of it to him, he will get a louder message than if you try to convince him. You aren't part of his battle anymore. You buy him nothing to fuel this. Keep healthy things for him to reach for if he's hungry. If the rest of your family wants a treat, fine, he just can't have access to it. Don't make brownies unless he's not home. He can't control himself. Food is his drug. We all need food to live though, so it's a tough addiction. Tell him you love him often, make him feel good about himself if you know how. I'm sure he doesn't like to be this heavy either. He needs a lot of love right now. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
General Discussions
The Watercooler
husband Has Me Feeling Passive-Aggressive This AM
Top