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<blockquote data-quote="jamrobmic" data-source="post: 84603" data-attributes="member: 1412"><p>I saw a therapist last year, and I didn't tell my husband, either, at first. I think I finally told him around the third visit. I didn't tell him at first, because whenever I brought up the subject (that I thought I might be depressed), he thought it meant I was unhappy with him, which was far from the truth. I think a lot of men think if their wives/so's are unhappy, it's their fault and they have to try and fix things. </p><p></p><p>As far as what response I wanted from my husband, we did discuss some of the issues that came up in counseling (he never went with me, but I didn't ask him to, either), and I thought that was helpful. He's not into discussing feelings, so I didn't really expect him to be very helpful in this area. He wants things to be okay, the quicker, the better. I've come to realize that's a reaction to HIS childhood (he was a foster kid from age 8 to adulthood), and I accept that about him. It doesn't have anything to do with not caring about difficult child and/or me. It's just the way he is.</p><p></p><p>One thing occurs to me now that I think back, though. I remember deciding to go into therapy because I was getting extremely angry with husband, and I couldn't really pinpoint why. He hadn't really done anything to deserve that kind of anger. For some reason, he was the target of my irritation with the things that were bothering me. Once the depression lifted somewhat (through medication, in my case-the therapist and I never really clicked), I wasn't so angry with husband.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jamrobmic, post: 84603, member: 1412"] I saw a therapist last year, and I didn't tell my husband, either, at first. I think I finally told him around the third visit. I didn't tell him at first, because whenever I brought up the subject (that I thought I might be depressed), he thought it meant I was unhappy with him, which was far from the truth. I think a lot of men think if their wives/so's are unhappy, it's their fault and they have to try and fix things. As far as what response I wanted from my husband, we did discuss some of the issues that came up in counseling (he never went with me, but I didn't ask him to, either), and I thought that was helpful. He's not into discussing feelings, so I didn't really expect him to be very helpful in this area. He wants things to be okay, the quicker, the better. I've come to realize that's a reaction to HIS childhood (he was a foster kid from age 8 to adulthood), and I accept that about him. It doesn't have anything to do with not caring about difficult child and/or me. It's just the way he is. One thing occurs to me now that I think back, though. I remember deciding to go into therapy because I was getting extremely angry with husband, and I couldn't really pinpoint why. He hadn't really done anything to deserve that kind of anger. For some reason, he was the target of my irritation with the things that were bothering me. Once the depression lifted somewhat (through medication, in my case-the therapist and I never really clicked), I wasn't so angry with husband. [/QUOTE]
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