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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 258999" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>This is speculation only, so I can't say for sure it will help. I tend to think that it will come out of a government check first, so instead of trying to reach a government employee who can help, I think it might be better for husband to ask whomever does the payroll at his job. They should have a contact person for the withdrawal from his paycheck. If he proves to them that the child support is being withdrawn from his government check, that should suffice.</p><p></p><p>I'm very sorry that he missed out on knowing a son that he didn't know he fathered. I hope you understand though that the "I didn't know story" is commonly used when a man is trying to avoid responsibility. Usually the mother does tell the man during pregnancy or shortly after birth and the man refuses to acknowledge the child by claiming he doesn't think it's his but refuses to take a blood test to find out, until court ordered years later. FWIW, I agree with you that difficult child should be told.</p><p></p><p>If my son's father is tracked down due to his current situation, I will guarantee you that he will say the same thing to difficult child and everyone in his life- including his sibs and mother, if she's still living. Why didn't I track him down and force a blood test myself istead of waiting until there is court involvement for other reasons and the courts do it? because I would have had to pay for it and I didn't think it was wise to take what little money I had and use it to track down a man instead of spending the money for difficult child's care, it still wouldn't make difficult child's father care about difficult child, and I really didn't mind supporting difficult child by myself. Plus, in our case, I had been told by dss that my son would be better off without that man in his life, so I did not want to push for a situation where his father would have equal parental rights- at least while he was a baby and young child.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 258999, member: 3699"] This is speculation only, so I can't say for sure it will help. I tend to think that it will come out of a government check first, so instead of trying to reach a government employee who can help, I think it might be better for husband to ask whomever does the payroll at his job. They should have a contact person for the withdrawal from his paycheck. If he proves to them that the child support is being withdrawn from his government check, that should suffice. I'm very sorry that he missed out on knowing a son that he didn't know he fathered. I hope you understand though that the "I didn't know story" is commonly used when a man is trying to avoid responsibility. Usually the mother does tell the man during pregnancy or shortly after birth and the man refuses to acknowledge the child by claiming he doesn't think it's his but refuses to take a blood test to find out, until court ordered years later. FWIW, I agree with you that difficult child should be told. If my son's father is tracked down due to his current situation, I will guarantee you that he will say the same thing to difficult child and everyone in his life- including his sibs and mother, if she's still living. Why didn't I track him down and force a blood test myself istead of waiting until there is court involvement for other reasons and the courts do it? because I would have had to pay for it and I didn't think it was wise to take what little money I had and use it to track down a man instead of spending the money for difficult child's care, it still wouldn't make difficult child's father care about difficult child, and I really didn't mind supporting difficult child by myself. Plus, in our case, I had been told by dss that my son would be better off without that man in his life, so I did not want to push for a situation where his father would have equal parental rights- at least while he was a baby and young child. [/QUOTE]
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