Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Hypomanic?
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 246385" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>THis really sounds like rebound to me. In my experience, taking the short-acting tablets - we would see rebound beginning in the evening of each day. Next morning there would still be signs of hyperactivity and imulsivity being worse plus often more emotional. THis would ease over the day (if unmedicated) but would be complicated by lack of medications leading to continuing levels of impulsivity. But it would ease to a stable (if still unacceptable) level. </p><p>With the long-acting - rebound would still begin at the same time in the evening, perhaps not so suddenly. But it would be a biggerproblem next day, if he stayed unmedicated next day. By the day after, he would have settled to a stable pattern (as above). Much the same, but the long-acting spreads out the problem over a longer period, but with less intense sudden over-activity.</p><p></p><p>The appetite - that fits. The stimulants do reduce the appetite, so when they come off them they really get the munchies. </p><p></p><p>With his new friend, I wouldn't allow unstructured, unspervised activity. I would hover for a while and direct activities. If they're both into computer games, maybe find one they can play together (instead of competing with one another) or something not too stressful. Big Brain Academy is a good one. Or various Wii Sports or Wii Fit games, because they take turns doing the same sort of thing and can keep trying, supporting one another's efforts.</p><p></p><p>If both your difficult child and this other boy have a history of inappropriate reactions with other kids, then over time they could become best buddies, understanding one another better than anyone else. But you need to be on the spot to immediately nip any problems in the bud. If either of them gets too hyper, or begins to annoy the other, you need to immediately stop what is happening and talk it out with them. "Why are you doing that? What do you want him to do? Is there maybe a better way to get what you want from him? Let's try it."</p><p>The more each boy sees you using techniques like this to resolve any problems, the more they will learn to apply those techniques themselves, and the more they will learn to give each other some breathing room and understanding. It's a good lesson for both and possibly fostering a good friendship between these boys could be a valuable investment in their future.</p><p></p><p>We have found some good friendships where previously there was conflict. One neighbourhood boy who used to be really horrible to difficult child 3 was himself a victim and was only taking it out on difficult child 3 because he could get away with it. Once we had our showdown, this boy expected me to always be critical, always looking out to catch him in the act of being mean, and that I would in turn be mean to him. So I made an effort to catch thisboy out doing something good - and I found it, in sport. THis boy is a good football player and a good team player. A good sport. SO I went up to him after a game and told him this, and thanked him for being generous with difficult child 3. They had been playing on opposing teams - the boy looked scared after he tackled difficult child 3 as part of the game, but he actually did it exactly right, within the rules. difficult child 3 wasn't at all upset, because the boy had been playing fair. After that when the other boy was playing (not against difficult child 3's team!) I would cheer for the other boy too. He learneds that I didn't hold grudges, that I also would be fair with him if he was fair with difficult child 3, and tat when I said we would put it all behind us and have a fresh start, I really meant it.</p><p></p><p>That boy isn't really friends with difficult child 3 because tey just don't talk together about anything, but he DOES look out for him and has rescued him from acouple of confrontions in recent years. Again, I've thanked him for this.</p><p></p><p>Often a boy who is really prickly and difficult, is doing it in the expectation that others will be prickly with him. "Do unto others before they do unto you." If you can break that cycle, it can really make a difference.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 246385, member: 1991"] THis really sounds like rebound to me. In my experience, taking the short-acting tablets - we would see rebound beginning in the evening of each day. Next morning there would still be signs of hyperactivity and imulsivity being worse plus often more emotional. THis would ease over the day (if unmedicated) but would be complicated by lack of medications leading to continuing levels of impulsivity. But it would ease to a stable (if still unacceptable) level. With the long-acting - rebound would still begin at the same time in the evening, perhaps not so suddenly. But it would be a biggerproblem next day, if he stayed unmedicated next day. By the day after, he would have settled to a stable pattern (as above). Much the same, but the long-acting spreads out the problem over a longer period, but with less intense sudden over-activity. The appetite - that fits. The stimulants do reduce the appetite, so when they come off them they really get the munchies. With his new friend, I wouldn't allow unstructured, unspervised activity. I would hover for a while and direct activities. If they're both into computer games, maybe find one they can play together (instead of competing with one another) or something not too stressful. Big Brain Academy is a good one. Or various Wii Sports or Wii Fit games, because they take turns doing the same sort of thing and can keep trying, supporting one another's efforts. If both your difficult child and this other boy have a history of inappropriate reactions with other kids, then over time they could become best buddies, understanding one another better than anyone else. But you need to be on the spot to immediately nip any problems in the bud. If either of them gets too hyper, or begins to annoy the other, you need to immediately stop what is happening and talk it out with them. "Why are you doing that? What do you want him to do? Is there maybe a better way to get what you want from him? Let's try it." The more each boy sees you using techniques like this to resolve any problems, the more they will learn to apply those techniques themselves, and the more they will learn to give each other some breathing room and understanding. It's a good lesson for both and possibly fostering a good friendship between these boys could be a valuable investment in their future. We have found some good friendships where previously there was conflict. One neighbourhood boy who used to be really horrible to difficult child 3 was himself a victim and was only taking it out on difficult child 3 because he could get away with it. Once we had our showdown, this boy expected me to always be critical, always looking out to catch him in the act of being mean, and that I would in turn be mean to him. So I made an effort to catch thisboy out doing something good - and I found it, in sport. THis boy is a good football player and a good team player. A good sport. SO I went up to him after a game and told him this, and thanked him for being generous with difficult child 3. They had been playing on opposing teams - the boy looked scared after he tackled difficult child 3 as part of the game, but he actually did it exactly right, within the rules. difficult child 3 wasn't at all upset, because the boy had been playing fair. After that when the other boy was playing (not against difficult child 3's team!) I would cheer for the other boy too. He learneds that I didn't hold grudges, that I also would be fair with him if he was fair with difficult child 3, and tat when I said we would put it all behind us and have a fresh start, I really meant it. That boy isn't really friends with difficult child 3 because tey just don't talk together about anything, but he DOES look out for him and has rescued him from acouple of confrontions in recent years. Again, I've thanked him for this. Often a boy who is really prickly and difficult, is doing it in the expectation that others will be prickly with him. "Do unto others before they do unto you." If you can break that cycle, it can really make a difference. Marg [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Hypomanic?
Top