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<blockquote data-quote="Steely" data-source="post: 178177" data-attributes="member: 3301"><p>klmno.........sorry I am coming into this late. But of course I had to offer my 2 cents<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/redface.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":redface:" title="redface :redface:" data-shortname=":redface:" /></p><p></p><p>OK.........so here it is. Popular or not.</p><p></p><p>A) Start him back on the Risperdal ASAP. Yes, it absolutely can be a side effect from stopping the medication.</p><p></p><p>B)Yes, it can also be from bro planting ideas and confusion in his head. Bio dad does this to difficult child all of the time, and it messes with him more than anything. Here we are, their moms, their sole providers, care takers, and only loving connection in life - and someone else they are supposed to love and respect is telling them we are cr@p. I know for my difficult child anytime he spent with his dad, afterwards he became aggressive and threatening towards me. Still to this day, do not know exactly why - but it is enough of a pattern it has validity.</p><p></p><p>C) For me, sending my difficult child away long term was never, ever an option. I was sent away when I was 16 and it altered me in a way that can never be repaired. I was not ever going to do that to my kid. Now that may make me an irrational mom, or one who is not practicing tough love - but it was what I had to adhere to in terms of my moral compass. So when difficult child would get so out of control that he physically threatened me, or tried to hurt me - I had limited myself in options. One day, when he got in my face - I looked at him, with the resolve of the biggest bad a@@ is the world, and just stared him down. He was taller than me, stronger than me - but that is what he needed - to know, that I was internally stronger than anything he could think of, or act on. He looked the other way, and went on about his business. I know he felt my resolve that I would not be victimized by my kid. Kids like these prey upon weakness, and they never ever need to see us weak. So to tie this and bro together - bro made difficult child think you are weak - and difficult child needs to test this.</p><p></p><p>Now, I do not advocate this for everyone, or even you - I am just sharing my story - not advice. Perhaps in retrospect I should have called the police. But I didn't, and long term this has worked. He has been violence free for awhile now. Knock on wood.</p><p></p><p>So many, many hugs klmno. I think of you often.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Steely, post: 178177, member: 3301"] klmno.........sorry I am coming into this late. But of course I had to offer my 2 cents:blushing: OK.........so here it is. Popular or not. A) Start him back on the Risperdal ASAP. Yes, it absolutely can be a side effect from stopping the medication. B)Yes, it can also be from bro planting ideas and confusion in his head. Bio dad does this to difficult child all of the time, and it messes with him more than anything. Here we are, their moms, their sole providers, care takers, and only loving connection in life - and someone else they are supposed to love and respect is telling them we are cr@p. I know for my difficult child anytime he spent with his dad, afterwards he became aggressive and threatening towards me. Still to this day, do not know exactly why - but it is enough of a pattern it has validity. C) For me, sending my difficult child away long term was never, ever an option. I was sent away when I was 16 and it altered me in a way that can never be repaired. I was not ever going to do that to my kid. Now that may make me an irrational mom, or one who is not practicing tough love - but it was what I had to adhere to in terms of my moral compass. So when difficult child would get so out of control that he physically threatened me, or tried to hurt me - I had limited myself in options. One day, when he got in my face - I looked at him, with the resolve of the biggest bad a@@ is the world, and just stared him down. He was taller than me, stronger than me - but that is what he needed - to know, that I was internally stronger than anything he could think of, or act on. He looked the other way, and went on about his business. I know he felt my resolve that I would not be victimized by my kid. Kids like these prey upon weakness, and they never ever need to see us weak. So to tie this and bro together - bro made difficult child think you are weak - and difficult child needs to test this. Now, I do not advocate this for everyone, or even you - I am just sharing my story - not advice. Perhaps in retrospect I should have called the police. But I didn't, and long term this has worked. He has been violence free for awhile now. Knock on wood. So many, many hugs klmno. I think of you often. [/QUOTE]
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