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I am not sure I can cope with much more of this...daughter issues
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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 630585" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>First - {{{{{{{big hugs}}}}}}}}</p><p></p><p>I don't like to put anything in writing to the difficult child's (this includes adult difficult child's in my family) that might be turned against me. This limits my written communications with them to something along the lines of "Happy Birthday. I hope that are well. Love Mom"; or "I'm sorry for your loss. I hope that you will be well. Love Witzend". I worry that even <em>that</em> is something that can be turned against me with that group. If they can figure a way to turn it against me, I guarantee you that they will show the letter (card, note, etc.) to everyone we know as well as everyone who might be someone they can take advantage of with a blow-by-blow of "what Witzend <em>really</em> meant when she said that - do you see how disadvantaged I am?" This is exactly what I see in your daughter's letter to you.</p><p></p><p>I know that this isn't helpful for what your daughter wrote to you. I hope that it is helpful to avoid another such letter from her. Never <em>ever</em> write her an "honest letter about how you feel" again. If you can't explain it to her verbally because she can twist your words on the fly, you can't explain it to her in writing either.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 630585, member: 99"] First - {{{{{{{big hugs}}}}}}}} I don't like to put anything in writing to the difficult child's (this includes adult difficult child's in my family) that might be turned against me. This limits my written communications with them to something along the lines of "Happy Birthday. I hope that are well. Love Mom"; or "I'm sorry for your loss. I hope that you will be well. Love Witzend". I worry that even [I]that[/I] is something that can be turned against me with that group. If they can figure a way to turn it against me, I guarantee you that they will show the letter (card, note, etc.) to everyone we know as well as everyone who might be someone they can take advantage of with a blow-by-blow of "what Witzend [I]really[/I] meant when she said that - do you see how disadvantaged I am?" This is exactly what I see in your daughter's letter to you. I know that this isn't helpful for what your daughter wrote to you. I hope that it is helpful to avoid another such letter from her. Never [I]ever[/I] write her an "honest letter about how you feel" again. If you can't explain it to her verbally because she can twist your words on the fly, you can't explain it to her in writing either. [/QUOTE]
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