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<blockquote data-quote="Kjs" data-source="post: 258751"><p>difficult child is not taking Strattera. He started Adderall ten days ago. He says it helps alot. He says he knows it helps. Just doesn't like being so tired.</p><p> </p><p>He brought his grades up 1+ letter grades in a week. However this is his pattern. Starts off the quarter with all A's. Does no work and grades fall to D's and F's. Then works hard the last two weeks and brings them up. Since this is the end of the quarter (finals today and MOnday) I am not sure the if it is adderall or just his pattern. He DOES say it helps.</p><p> </p><p>Then anxiety - omg, we have fought this his entire life. When he was six a neigbor man died in his sleep. difficult child wouldn't eat...SIX WEEKS because he thought he would die. FIFTH grade the counselor brought him home in the middle of the day. SAid he was having an anxiety attack. Didn't know where he was or what was going on. difficult child requested hospitalization. Contacted a psychiatrist - there were no open beds. He started lamictal and things were great except school/homework. He stopped the lamictal the summer before 8th grade. difficult child always worried about things, not like the past six months though. Dying. Total fear of dying. Since December the feeling things are not real PLUS dying. Nothing is fun anymore. Doesn't want to leave or do things he use to. NOW I am scared.</p><p> </p><p>He agreed last night to take lexapro. Please pray it helps. He talks to people online. He said it is a teen forum. He said others he talks to feel the same and it will go away. Staff at school is absolutely wonderful.</p><p> </p><p>difficult child/homework - this has been a fight since the day he started school. Even first grade. Yes, I agree he tries to fit in. Voice hasn't changed, on the short side. With me 6ft, but dad about 5'9...he takes after dad. short and stocky. But he DID grow 2 inches in the last month. So now on to another question. Are hormones finally kicking in? If so, how much of this is hormones? </p><p> </p><p>husband - he has not even known I exist since difficult child was born. BUT...difficult child is HIS entire world. His LIFE revolves around difficult child. He would do anything in the world for difficult child. I have been sharing with him these things. I told him what therapist said about getting him to survive. husband said he knows that. I showed him his Myspace feelings. I told him of our conversations. husband is one that would let him do whatever he wants. Take him anywhere, do anything...difficult child IS his entire world. difficult child KNOWS that. He knows dad will be there for him forever. There is no doubt there. Things got really bad the last few years because I do the school thing. I am the one school calls, I have all the meetings....I do everything. I just can't do it anymore. I just can't do it. I tried turning it over to husband. But he cannot get phone calls in the shop. When he returns calls at lunch of after work---nobody is available. husband has been stepping up more, a little more than before. Although I still cannot get him to regularly check his grades online. </p><p>difficult child also knows (he told me this today) that dad has a hard time showing his feelings because his parents died when he was young. difficult child told me that just because dad doesn't tell me he loves me...he does.</p><p>But, he tells difficult child he loves him a thousand times a day. difficult child is a very bright kid. He ***** everything in and researches everything. He likes his school, he likes the staff...unless he gets in trouble. That would be true at any school.</p><p> </p><p>I am trying. I try SO hard. difficult child knows anytime, anywhere if he is feeling bad, he has 5 different people he can call that would be there for him. He knows this.</p><p> </p><p>I sure hope he did well on finals this morning. It will set the tone for the weekend.</p><p> </p><p>Thank you all for helping me. Even if you can't get through all my jumbled thoughts, it helps to write. And I learn so much from all of your posts. Even if I don't have words to reply, your wisdom is so comforting. I think of you all ---always. I don't know where I would be without this board.</p><p> </p><p>I am afraid it is because of me. Not only because of our arguments (me losing control.) He has pushed MY buttons his entire life. Not dad's. Dad didn't even see this behavior for years. He thought I made it up.</p><p> </p><p>I too worry. About so many things that I have no control over. I take deep breaths, tell myself worrying doesn't help. still I worry. so, see he got that from me too.</p><p> </p><p>Thank you all again. each and everyone. I do read all your posts and I pray for you all. Just don't have the words right now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kjs, post: 258751"] difficult child is not taking Strattera. He started Adderall ten days ago. He says it helps alot. He says he knows it helps. Just doesn't like being so tired. He brought his grades up 1+ letter grades in a week. However this is his pattern. Starts off the quarter with all A's. Does no work and grades fall to D's and F's. Then works hard the last two weeks and brings them up. Since this is the end of the quarter (finals today and MOnday) I am not sure the if it is adderall or just his pattern. He DOES say it helps. Then anxiety - omg, we have fought this his entire life. When he was six a neigbor man died in his sleep. difficult child wouldn't eat...SIX WEEKS because he thought he would die. FIFTH grade the counselor brought him home in the middle of the day. SAid he was having an anxiety attack. Didn't know where he was or what was going on. difficult child requested hospitalization. Contacted a psychiatrist - there were no open beds. He started lamictal and things were great except school/homework. He stopped the lamictal the summer before 8th grade. difficult child always worried about things, not like the past six months though. Dying. Total fear of dying. Since December the feeling things are not real PLUS dying. Nothing is fun anymore. Doesn't want to leave or do things he use to. NOW I am scared. He agreed last night to take lexapro. Please pray it helps. He talks to people online. He said it is a teen forum. He said others he talks to feel the same and it will go away. Staff at school is absolutely wonderful. difficult child/homework - this has been a fight since the day he started school. Even first grade. Yes, I agree he tries to fit in. Voice hasn't changed, on the short side. With me 6ft, but dad about 5'9...he takes after dad. short and stocky. But he DID grow 2 inches in the last month. So now on to another question. Are hormones finally kicking in? If so, how much of this is hormones? husband - he has not even known I exist since difficult child was born. BUT...difficult child is HIS entire world. His LIFE revolves around difficult child. He would do anything in the world for difficult child. I have been sharing with him these things. I told him what therapist said about getting him to survive. husband said he knows that. I showed him his Myspace feelings. I told him of our conversations. husband is one that would let him do whatever he wants. Take him anywhere, do anything...difficult child IS his entire world. difficult child KNOWS that. He knows dad will be there for him forever. There is no doubt there. Things got really bad the last few years because I do the school thing. I am the one school calls, I have all the meetings....I do everything. I just can't do it anymore. I just can't do it. I tried turning it over to husband. But he cannot get phone calls in the shop. When he returns calls at lunch of after work---nobody is available. husband has been stepping up more, a little more than before. Although I still cannot get him to regularly check his grades online. difficult child also knows (he told me this today) that dad has a hard time showing his feelings because his parents died when he was young. difficult child told me that just because dad doesn't tell me he loves me...he does. But, he tells difficult child he loves him a thousand times a day. difficult child is a very bright kid. He ***** everything in and researches everything. He likes his school, he likes the staff...unless he gets in trouble. That would be true at any school. I am trying. I try SO hard. difficult child knows anytime, anywhere if he is feeling bad, he has 5 different people he can call that would be there for him. He knows this. I sure hope he did well on finals this morning. It will set the tone for the weekend. Thank you all for helping me. Even if you can't get through all my jumbled thoughts, it helps to write. And I learn so much from all of your posts. Even if I don't have words to reply, your wisdom is so comforting. I think of you all ---always. I don't know where I would be without this board. I am afraid it is because of me. Not only because of our arguments (me losing control.) He has pushed MY buttons his entire life. Not dad's. Dad didn't even see this behavior for years. He thought I made it up. I too worry. About so many things that I have no control over. I take deep breaths, tell myself worrying doesn't help. still I worry. so, see he got that from me too. Thank you all again. each and everyone. I do read all your posts and I pray for you all. Just don't have the words right now. [/QUOTE]
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