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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 745499" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Its not your fault. He has seen many doctors and none have told you why he wont or cant function well. Im partial in his case to "cant." He has had so much trauma to his body and mind. Like Sonic did. But Sonic got help from infancy! Our foster care system, bad as it is, recognized that to be his best, Sonic needed to start interventions for his prenatal drug exposure right away.</p><p></p><p> It is not your fault that your sons social workers did not do likewise for your son. Sounds as if you were lead to believe he would have no issues from this prenatal drug exposure. Honestly, these often baby social workers need to become better educated and tell us the truth and i itiate services very young.</p><p></p><p>Most of the children of parents in my adoption group were drug exposed in utero. None of them had NO issues because of the exposure. J may not actually understandhow serious Hep. B is. He doesnt seem to get it. This can all be part of brain differences due to what has happened to him. Not saying it is for sure but he is not suicodal. Not really. Yet je wont do the normal smart thing and care for hos liver.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes the prenatal drug exposure issues do not really show up much until adulthood when they have to try to take care of themselves without parents. I think pot for J is part of his own solution. And to be fair many people smoke pot, work, function etc. I dont like pot but I dont personally believe pot is all of this or even most of it.</p><p></p><p>If J is not able to plan his life and do things on his own due to prenatal drug exposure and TBIs, there are people who will look out for him, offer him opportunity and be there for him. To me the issues are a legal disability diagnosed and his willingness to accept Section.8, Medicare and Medicaid, foodstamps and case management.</p><p></p><p>When you require community help, you get it, but it doesnt cime with a mansion, tons of money and a comfy upper middle class lifestyle. He can work. He will still get a certain amount of SSI. And he can get help with job placement.</p><p></p><p>But this is dependent on him and his willingness to humble himself and get tested and accept the help he needs. You cant support somebody who wont admit he needs help. Or who is ashamed of getting help. That is totally on him.</p><p></p><p>Other than that you still have the choice of bringing him home and having no expectations. This is your own choice, not ours, not Ms. What will help you sleep at night even if it isnt perfect. There is no perfect solution here. There is only what YOU need.</p><p></p><p>Love and hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 745499, member: 1550"] Its not your fault. He has seen many doctors and none have told you why he wont or cant function well. Im partial in his case to "cant." He has had so much trauma to his body and mind. Like Sonic did. But Sonic got help from infancy! Our foster care system, bad as it is, recognized that to be his best, Sonic needed to start interventions for his prenatal drug exposure right away. It is not your fault that your sons social workers did not do likewise for your son. Sounds as if you were lead to believe he would have no issues from this prenatal drug exposure. Honestly, these often baby social workers need to become better educated and tell us the truth and i itiate services very young. Most of the children of parents in my adoption group were drug exposed in utero. None of them had NO issues because of the exposure. J may not actually understandhow serious Hep. B is. He doesnt seem to get it. This can all be part of brain differences due to what has happened to him. Not saying it is for sure but he is not suicodal. Not really. Yet je wont do the normal smart thing and care for hos liver. Sometimes the prenatal drug exposure issues do not really show up much until adulthood when they have to try to take care of themselves without parents. I think pot for J is part of his own solution. And to be fair many people smoke pot, work, function etc. I dont like pot but I dont personally believe pot is all of this or even most of it. If J is not able to plan his life and do things on his own due to prenatal drug exposure and TBIs, there are people who will look out for him, offer him opportunity and be there for him. To me the issues are a legal disability diagnosed and his willingness to accept Section.8, Medicare and Medicaid, foodstamps and case management. When you require community help, you get it, but it doesnt cime with a mansion, tons of money and a comfy upper middle class lifestyle. He can work. He will still get a certain amount of SSI. And he can get help with job placement. But this is dependent on him and his willingness to humble himself and get tested and accept the help he needs. You cant support somebody who wont admit he needs help. Or who is ashamed of getting help. That is totally on him. Other than that you still have the choice of bringing him home and having no expectations. This is your own choice, not ours, not Ms. What will help you sleep at night even if it isnt perfect. There is no perfect solution here. There is only what YOU need. Love and hugs. [/QUOTE]
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