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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 745676" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>One of the hardest things for a parent to let go of is worry. I'm so sorry that he unwilling to follow through and meet you. </p><p>What would it look like if he did come back and stay with you or in the other house (not sure where M would go) but lets just think about what it would look like.</p><p>Whether he lived with you or in the other house, he has made it clear that he does not want to compromise and want to live his life the way he chooses. That would be no different than it is now except that you would be footing the bill. You would still worry about his health. Living with you there would be no guarantee that he would go to have his liver checked. I don't know that you would get a different result than you have already had when he was living with you or in the other house.</p><p>I would also imagine that on some level he knows all that you have told him is true but to admit that would mean, perhaps in his mind, that you won. He would have to give into his ego and accept that you were right. I often wonder if this is how many of our difficult adult children feel.</p><p>I also imagine that without M living in your house, that has added to your feelings of anxiety. I am glad that he is still there to offer some support.</p><p>Hang in there Copa!! We are all here for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 745676, member: 18516"] One of the hardest things for a parent to let go of is worry. I'm so sorry that he unwilling to follow through and meet you. What would it look like if he did come back and stay with you or in the other house (not sure where M would go) but lets just think about what it would look like. Whether he lived with you or in the other house, he has made it clear that he does not want to compromise and want to live his life the way he chooses. That would be no different than it is now except that you would be footing the bill. You would still worry about his health. Living with you there would be no guarantee that he would go to have his liver checked. I don't know that you would get a different result than you have already had when he was living with you or in the other house. I would also imagine that on some level he knows all that you have told him is true but to admit that would mean, perhaps in his mind, that you won. He would have to give into his ego and accept that you were right. I often wonder if this is how many of our difficult adult children feel. I also imagine that without M living in your house, that has added to your feelings of anxiety. I am glad that he is still there to offer some support. Hang in there Copa!! We are all here for you. [/QUOTE]
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