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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 745825" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Dear Tired</p><p></p><p>This song was from an Alfred Hitchcock movie I loved as a child, called, <em>The Man Who Knew Too Much</em>, and is sung by Doris Day. This is a very pleasant association. I still remember going to the neighborhood theater with my mother and my baby sister, who cried. My mother (and I) always loved movies, and I can imagine now, how stir crazy my mother must have been to risk bringing an infant to the movies.</p><p></p><p>But back to "Que Sera Sera." This will be my mantra.</p><p></p><p>There is so much truth to what you say. Because I cannot alter what will be, by my suffering.</p><p> </p><p>I know what you say is so. Yes. I believe I seek control over an outcome that I do not control. I know that. But I am also trying to control my life story.</p><p></p><p>I cannot accept that all of this love ended up in the place we are. It is not self-blame, that it is all my fault. I accept that my son had a tough start and I am not completely responsible for the outcome. It is that I believed irrationally that I could make everything all right. For him and for myself.</p><p></p><p>But you know what? He is holding his own. He's way more stable than he was. Less impulsive. He is more self-protective than before. People like him a lot. He has friends. He works intermittently. He is very kind-hearted. He does not like to hurt anybody. He is highly intelligent. He can be very likable. </p><p></p><p>Much of the trouble we have had has been because I have had poor boundaries, and kept trying and trying, when I should have stopped. I was intrusive and meddling. And controlling. Because I wanted to protect him and myself. I saw this as protecting myself because I saw my life story and his as joined at the hip.</p><p></p><p>That is what you are telling me to stop. I am closer than I have been for a long, long time.</p><p> Yes. I will. Thank you very much.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 745825, member: 18958"] Dear Tired This song was from an Alfred Hitchcock movie I loved as a child, called, [I]The Man Who Knew Too Much[/I], and is sung by Doris Day. This is a very pleasant association. I still remember going to the neighborhood theater with my mother and my baby sister, who cried. My mother (and I) always loved movies, and I can imagine now, how stir crazy my mother must have been to risk bringing an infant to the movies. But back to "Que Sera Sera." This will be my mantra. There is so much truth to what you say. Because I cannot alter what will be, by my suffering. I know what you say is so. Yes. I believe I seek control over an outcome that I do not control. I know that. But I am also trying to control my life story. I cannot accept that all of this love ended up in the place we are. It is not self-blame, that it is all my fault. I accept that my son had a tough start and I am not completely responsible for the outcome. It is that I believed irrationally that I could make everything all right. For him and for myself. But you know what? He is holding his own. He's way more stable than he was. Less impulsive. He is more self-protective than before. People like him a lot. He has friends. He works intermittently. He is very kind-hearted. He does not like to hurt anybody. He is highly intelligent. He can be very likable. Much of the trouble we have had has been because I have had poor boundaries, and kept trying and trying, when I should have stopped. I was intrusive and meddling. And controlling. Because I wanted to protect him and myself. I saw this as protecting myself because I saw my life story and his as joined at the hip. That is what you are telling me to stop. I am closer than I have been for a long, long time. Yes. I will. Thank you very much. [/QUOTE]
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