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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 147049" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>This isn't about sunglasses. it's about disrespect.</p><p></p><p>I'd be having a serious talk about COMMUNICATION and DISRESPECT. You might need to calm down a long way first.</p><p></p><p>What he should have done - he should have come to you, or husband, and said, "What can I use to try to repair my old glasses?" And you could have said, "Here - you can have my old sunglasses, they were falling apart anyway, so any bits you want off them - they're yours."</p><p></p><p>What he should NOT have done, was assume that everything he touches belongs to him and can be cannibalised or damaged purely for his own experimentation. THIS is disrespect.</p><p></p><p>What he should do - he needs to buy you a new pair of sunglasses. At 17 there are a lot of jobs he could do to earn the money to go and buy the sunglasses. And just giving you the money for them is not enough - he has to go with you and watch while you find a pair like the ones he destroyed, and then pay for them.</p><p></p><p>However - if he can undo what he did, and put the arm back on your sunglasses as if there is NO DAMAGE AT ALL - then that is an alternative.</p><p></p><p>A sensible DIYer would have removed the screws and tried to re-attach the different arm with existing screws. Frankly, other sorts of glasses repairs are not effective long-term.</p><p></p><p>What he's done - impulsive, short-sighted, totally thoughtless.</p><p></p><p>So if you get angry with him, and ANYONE dares to say, "So what? It was only a stupid pair of $10 sunglasses," your response can be, "This is not about sunglasses, it's about disrespect, it's about learning to think first, to ask for support, to communicate - and to not just TAKE. NOW YOU MUST FIX IT."</p><p></p><p>Good luck with him. You have every right to be angry. And I agree with you - if he can't respect his housemates, he can't live under the same roof. It's time for a short, sharp lesson in learning to live with other people. And if he can't follow the rules with you (who are his family and who love him more than the rest of the world) then how on earth is he going to be able to get on with people who have no need to care about him?</p><p></p><p>That's one huge sense of entitlement he's got to lose, quick smart.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 147049, member: 1991"] This isn't about sunglasses. it's about disrespect. I'd be having a serious talk about COMMUNICATION and DISRESPECT. You might need to calm down a long way first. What he should have done - he should have come to you, or husband, and said, "What can I use to try to repair my old glasses?" And you could have said, "Here - you can have my old sunglasses, they were falling apart anyway, so any bits you want off them - they're yours." What he should NOT have done, was assume that everything he touches belongs to him and can be cannibalised or damaged purely for his own experimentation. THIS is disrespect. What he should do - he needs to buy you a new pair of sunglasses. At 17 there are a lot of jobs he could do to earn the money to go and buy the sunglasses. And just giving you the money for them is not enough - he has to go with you and watch while you find a pair like the ones he destroyed, and then pay for them. However - if he can undo what he did, and put the arm back on your sunglasses as if there is NO DAMAGE AT ALL - then that is an alternative. A sensible DIYer would have removed the screws and tried to re-attach the different arm with existing screws. Frankly, other sorts of glasses repairs are not effective long-term. What he's done - impulsive, short-sighted, totally thoughtless. So if you get angry with him, and ANYONE dares to say, "So what? It was only a stupid pair of $10 sunglasses," your response can be, "This is not about sunglasses, it's about disrespect, it's about learning to think first, to ask for support, to communicate - and to not just TAKE. NOW YOU MUST FIX IT." Good luck with him. You have every right to be angry. And I agree with you - if he can't respect his housemates, he can't live under the same roof. It's time for a short, sharp lesson in learning to live with other people. And if he can't follow the rules with you (who are his family and who love him more than the rest of the world) then how on earth is he going to be able to get on with people who have no need to care about him? That's one huge sense of entitlement he's got to lose, quick smart. Marg [/QUOTE]
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