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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 743126" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Hello SWOT. I don't hold a view different than your own. I did not comment upon the car or driving, but I will now.</p><p></p><p>First, my understanding is that he has an assistant that drives the take home truck from work to his residence, and the assistant drives the truck while at work. That sounds to me like a novel way to handle the situation.</p><p></p><p>This mother did not ask us about paying his DUI. The parents have made that decision and she is not rethinking it. That is why I did not address my comments about it.</p><p></p><p>I believe my comments are consistent with this mom drawing a line about any destructive or dangerous behavior by her son <em>in her home.</em> In no way do I endorse driving or helping another adult drive who has a drug or alcohol problem. There is the awareness here that if she forces him out, he does not have an apartment, but he could find one. Who knows how this would affect and or undermine the job which seems to be giving son both structure and an impetus to grow and change for the positive.</p><p></p><p>I believe that son showed growth by fessing up to how destructive is his drinking and his lack of any control. Many people would not have participated in this conversation in an open and honest way. I do not believe that this mother's only choice is to kick him out. She was worked with him and he has responded every step of the way. How is this different?</p><p></p><p>Nobody is supporting this young person to drive.</p><p></p><p>Discussion between M and I has come up about supporting my own son to drive. We even bought another truck with the idea that we help him. What happened? My son KNOWS he cannot drive. While the hypothetical idea of having a vehicle and driving interested him, he showed no motivation to actually move towards this idea, by getting his drivers license back or any other thing. And at the end of the day, we realized that we could not help him do something that could be a dangerous proposition for any other person. As long as my son is impulsive, rash and anxious, he should never be near a car.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 743126, member: 18958"] Hello SWOT. I don't hold a view different than your own. I did not comment upon the car or driving, but I will now. First, my understanding is that he has an assistant that drives the take home truck from work to his residence, and the assistant drives the truck while at work. That sounds to me like a novel way to handle the situation. This mother did not ask us about paying his DUI. The parents have made that decision and she is not rethinking it. That is why I did not address my comments about it. I believe my comments are consistent with this mom drawing a line about any destructive or dangerous behavior by her son [I]in her home.[/I] In no way do I endorse driving or helping another adult drive who has a drug or alcohol problem. There is the awareness here that if she forces him out, he does not have an apartment, but he could find one. Who knows how this would affect and or undermine the job which seems to be giving son both structure and an impetus to grow and change for the positive. I believe that son showed growth by fessing up to how destructive is his drinking and his lack of any control. Many people would not have participated in this conversation in an open and honest way. I do not believe that this mother's only choice is to kick him out. She was worked with him and he has responded every step of the way. How is this different? Nobody is supporting this young person to drive. Discussion between M and I has come up about supporting my own son to drive. We even bought another truck with the idea that we help him. What happened? My son KNOWS he cannot drive. While the hypothetical idea of having a vehicle and driving interested him, he showed no motivation to actually move towards this idea, by getting his drivers license back or any other thing. And at the end of the day, we realized that we could not help him do something that could be a dangerous proposition for any other person. As long as my son is impulsive, rash and anxious, he should never be near a car. [/QUOTE]
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