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I bought my kid a tent today, he's homeless.
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<blockquote data-quote="WiseChoices" data-source="post: 757010" data-attributes="member: 24254"><p>JMom, you are so strong. I admire you. I have a question for anyone in here, really, something I have been pondering for a while .</p><p></p><p>Al-anon says to keep our mouth shut , to not say anything unless it affects us. But I have found when I do that, I slip into feeling I am almost protecting the secret of addiction. And it feels like as a child that I am somehow "protecting" someone's secret very well knowing that secrets keep the addict sick and that a light needs to be shone on it. </p><p></p><p>You did this here, JMom. You said it like it is. You did not question him which is what I would try and then get lies and defenses. You just said what you perceive and set your boundary. You left the consequences of his choices with him. </p><p></p><p>I am seeing how the Black and White thinking is very strong in me. And how I have felt in order to do my Al-Anon program perfectly, I never say anything about addictive behavior I observe. </p><p></p><p>Any input is greatly appreciated.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WiseChoices, post: 757010, member: 24254"] JMom, you are so strong. I admire you. I have a question for anyone in here, really, something I have been pondering for a while . Al-anon says to keep our mouth shut , to not say anything unless it affects us. But I have found when I do that, I slip into feeling I am almost protecting the secret of addiction. And it feels like as a child that I am somehow "protecting" someone's secret very well knowing that secrets keep the addict sick and that a light needs to be shone on it. You did this here, JMom. You said it like it is. You did not question him which is what I would try and then get lies and defenses. You just said what you perceive and set your boundary. You left the consequences of his choices with him. I am seeing how the Black and White thinking is very strong in me. And how I have felt in order to do my Al-Anon program perfectly, I never say anything about addictive behavior I observe. Any input is greatly appreciated. [/QUOTE]
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