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I bought my kid a tent today, he's homeless.
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<blockquote data-quote="JMom" data-source="post: 757156" data-attributes="member: 19892"><p>WC,</p><p>I think as a general rule, part of self-care is to do what YOU are comfortable with. If you want to say something, go for it. I just make statements now, I don't question, because I don't want to know the answer. As far as B&W, I am a very gray person, I live in the gray. I feel similar to you in that I hated the secrets, I don't have to tell anyone else, I just let him know. When he denied it, I just said, you know where I stand, let's not beat a dead horse. I think it feels good to say your boundry out loud, in a soft kind voice. I was so tired of confrontation, it made ME feel bad. Now I won't fight or argue, just state my peace and move on. That's my two cents.</p><p></p><p>As far as Alanon goes, it wasn't for me because I always felt worse. Hearing everyone's hurt, disappointment, fears made me fearful. Here, I choose which posts to stop reading, dive into, take what is helpful and leave the rest. It is freedom without feeling rude lol.</p><p></p><p>Glad you brought up secrets, they are lousy! lol</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JMom, post: 757156, member: 19892"] WC, I think as a general rule, part of self-care is to do what YOU are comfortable with. If you want to say something, go for it. I just make statements now, I don't question, because I don't want to know the answer. As far as B&W, I am a very gray person, I live in the gray. I feel similar to you in that I hated the secrets, I don't have to tell anyone else, I just let him know. When he denied it, I just said, you know where I stand, let's not beat a dead horse. I think it feels good to say your boundry out loud, in a soft kind voice. I was so tired of confrontation, it made ME feel bad. Now I won't fight or argue, just state my peace and move on. That's my two cents. As far as Alanon goes, it wasn't for me because I always felt worse. Hearing everyone's hurt, disappointment, fears made me fearful. Here, I choose which posts to stop reading, dive into, take what is helpful and leave the rest. It is freedom without feeling rude lol. Glad you brought up secrets, they are lousy! lol [/QUOTE]
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