Lol!
My actual response, I’ll quote it below, was the next afternoon when I had settled some . I ignored the text bubble about not returning to earth and replied to the one about “never coming back”. .,
I also had an image of him as a 7yo not wanting to shift from going into women’s restroom with mom (me) to using the men’s room. With me outside the door of men’s room at a big supermarket with nice facilities—coaching him along while he ranted from inside about unfairness, etc. (Happily a man customer went in and out while we were there and laughingly told me not to worry - that Son was doing fine.). Anyway despite his age, size, strength, drugs, destructive capacity, etc, all the reasons that I need to protect myself, he’s a grown kid who needs to launch into adult life much like the 7yo needed to move to using men’s room on his own. And at this stage if he will accept it, I need to be like the mom I was then outside men’s room, talking him through it ... modified for this stage. And of course this stage is much harder and more complicated, including with legal ramifications that I haven’t yet figured out.
So anyway, I wrote split into two text bubbles
“Son, I love You (not a lot of your recent behavior).
“never come back” seems extreme. I think though that you Are ready to be launching into life as a grown up good man.
I love you.
I am not abandoning you.
I believe in your abilities, your intelligence, your core good heartedness.
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Also I would like to talk with you sometime in the next couple of days if possible (texts or phone) about things like getting your belongings to you, including when it comes your replacement driver license.
Again, I love you, son, and am not abandoning you.
Signed, Mom”
(The signed mom part was because he had been sending notes or talking ending with “signed [his full name].)
