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I Can Only Say "I'm Sorry" So Many Times
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 397490" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Who pays the electricity bill? The connection bill? OK, it happened, he got thrown off his game, possibly at a crucial point. Annoying and frustrating for him. A vent form him is understandable. You apologised (which I also would have done) and that should resolve it. If it does not resolve things, then ask him to stop the game and come resolve it now, because clearly your apology for an ACCIDENT is not sufficient for him. I'm betting he won't want to stop; but he can only continue if he agrees to let it go. If he keeps whining, then warn him that clearly it is still an issue, it still needs resolving and you are going to cut the electrical power to the house in ten minutes, if he has not stopped whining by then and apologised for his attitude. Then follow through. We set up a loud timer (the microwave oven often has a good timer that counts down) and when it goes off, I go out to the metre board and shut off the power. This is not good idea to do unwarned, because the game system needs to have disks removed so they don't grind down.</p><p></p><p>The other threat I have carried out - I threatened to shut down the network. That doesn't do any damage, it just causes inconvenience. And it only goes back on when the problem is resolved.</p><p></p><p>You have the power. Literally. While it is OK to apologise and admit frailty when appropriate, you should not have to keep going and become a doormat. Balance in all things.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 397490, member: 1991"] Who pays the electricity bill? The connection bill? OK, it happened, he got thrown off his game, possibly at a crucial point. Annoying and frustrating for him. A vent form him is understandable. You apologised (which I also would have done) and that should resolve it. If it does not resolve things, then ask him to stop the game and come resolve it now, because clearly your apology for an ACCIDENT is not sufficient for him. I'm betting he won't want to stop; but he can only continue if he agrees to let it go. If he keeps whining, then warn him that clearly it is still an issue, it still needs resolving and you are going to cut the electrical power to the house in ten minutes, if he has not stopped whining by then and apologised for his attitude. Then follow through. We set up a loud timer (the microwave oven often has a good timer that counts down) and when it goes off, I go out to the metre board and shut off the power. This is not good idea to do unwarned, because the game system needs to have disks removed so they don't grind down. The other threat I have carried out - I threatened to shut down the network. That doesn't do any damage, it just causes inconvenience. And it only goes back on when the problem is resolved. You have the power. Literally. While it is OK to apologise and admit frailty when appropriate, you should not have to keep going and become a doormat. Balance in all things. Marg [/QUOTE]
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