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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 317222" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}</p><p></p><p>It is just so WRONG the way the system is set up. You can be screaming for help and there is no one there to help you.</p><p></p><p>A lot of the options won't work until/unless the patient wants to be helped. So many crisis places just ASSUME parents will make it worse and don't give you the info you need to keep your child safe. </p><p></p><p>Did they at least give her some condoms????? ANY way to avoid a pregnancy and std's?</p><p></p><p>I find it ludicrous and pitiful that places that cannot give our kids tylenol or advil or a bandaid without parental consent can go ahead and treat the same kid for stds, unsafe sex, and other risky behaviors without so much as a phone call or letter to us.</p><p></p><p>Heck, in many states they cannot give a girl a bandaid but they can give her an abortion!!! (NOT bringing abortion in as a political topic, just a sad and startling fact!)</p><p></p><p>Did the crisis place tell you WHY they didn't notify you? I hope they did not bill you!</p><p></p><p>As for help finding a placement, I can tell you what I did.</p><p></p><p>I started with our church. Called the pastor and told him the sad saga. Told him what we needed. Asked him if he knew of churches or groups with similar services. He sent me to another pastor, and from there to several more. </p><p></p><p>Each person was told the story to the degree that they understood this was a true need and we were a family in crisis. I probably cried to 30 different people in a 2 day period. I almost NEVER cry. Never. Not. Ever. And I cried to these people because I was so desperate for help and so afraid that we would all not wake up because he had lost it in the night and killed us. Those who were here then probably remember my anguish. This site saved my family, truly. </p><p></p><p>I just kept calling people and asking if they knew of anyone with a program to help.</p><p></p><p>I kept a notebook, starting with our pastor but with a phonebook of all the churches and tdocs in our area.</p><p></p><p>It is a horrible task, but you DO eventually find out if anyone has a clue as to who can help.</p><p></p><p>I wish you much luck. MUCH.</p><p></p><p>Just remember to ease up on chores, etc... that you expect yourself to do. This task takes somuch out of you that you just cannot do all you normally do. Be gentle wtih yourself and your family.</p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p></p><p>Susie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 317222, member: 1233"] {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} It is just so WRONG the way the system is set up. You can be screaming for help and there is no one there to help you. A lot of the options won't work until/unless the patient wants to be helped. So many crisis places just ASSUME parents will make it worse and don't give you the info you need to keep your child safe. Did they at least give her some condoms????? ANY way to avoid a pregnancy and std's? I find it ludicrous and pitiful that places that cannot give our kids tylenol or advil or a bandaid without parental consent can go ahead and treat the same kid for stds, unsafe sex, and other risky behaviors without so much as a phone call or letter to us. Heck, in many states they cannot give a girl a bandaid but they can give her an abortion!!! (NOT bringing abortion in as a political topic, just a sad and startling fact!) Did the crisis place tell you WHY they didn't notify you? I hope they did not bill you! As for help finding a placement, I can tell you what I did. I started with our church. Called the pastor and told him the sad saga. Told him what we needed. Asked him if he knew of churches or groups with similar services. He sent me to another pastor, and from there to several more. Each person was told the story to the degree that they understood this was a true need and we were a family in crisis. I probably cried to 30 different people in a 2 day period. I almost NEVER cry. Never. Not. Ever. And I cried to these people because I was so desperate for help and so afraid that we would all not wake up because he had lost it in the night and killed us. Those who were here then probably remember my anguish. This site saved my family, truly. I just kept calling people and asking if they knew of anyone with a program to help. I kept a notebook, starting with our pastor but with a phonebook of all the churches and tdocs in our area. It is a horrible task, but you DO eventually find out if anyone has a clue as to who can help. I wish you much luck. MUCH. Just remember to ease up on chores, etc... that you expect yourself to do. This task takes somuch out of you that you just cannot do all you normally do. Be gentle wtih yourself and your family. Hugs, Susie [/QUOTE]
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